Field Report 3.28.2015
Learned a lot tonight, some of my flaws, weak points, and strengths regarding my game. Buying drink mistakes and pulling mistakes.
Field Report, PB 3.22.2015
Tonight I learned:
1. Go for the best girl – push yourself to do so. You will feel tired, exhausted, energy spent, but you will not regret it
2. You will learn by pushing yourself about your game vulnerabilities, and to be able to fix them
3. You will get success by pushing yourself
Field Report: Peak Experiences
Doing audio this time folks, new and different. Here’s my audio FR For Valentines Day 2015. Here’s the Zan interview I talk about in my audio file. The hazy voice is a result of going out until 4am. And No, I don’t drink
What I learned:
*Peak experience going out
*2nd time in 2 weeks, after 2 month break. Completely free, outcome independent
*Easier when you are already getting laid – puts sex into perspective
*Jungle is open, danger + opportunity, must see things as they are as close to reality as possible
*Not the best place “judge of character”, but again, its honest and real, where people don’t “pretend”
*Overall, not the best place to meet high quality women to date percentage-wise
*When to NOT have sex
*I’d rather die than misrepresent myself to women who give themselves to me
*Walk away from negativity, genuinely not care, look at them weird
*Feel sorry for the other person
*Most guys are just as afraid as you, the ones looking to start trouble will gravitate toward negative energy, if you are polite and smile he has nothing to grab onto. De-escalation
How To Have Success Going Out After A Long Break
1. Get rejected quickly and do it a few times. Bomb if you need to. Move onto a new bar. This will allow your neo-cortex to realize what you knew already: rejections don’t mean shit, it is just your hard-wired survival brain trying to fuck you up.
2. Plan on going to a least 2 bars, or run street game, where the refresh rate is high. This allows you to bomb a few sets quickly, or get back into it. Go up to the hottest girl and say anything, “hey you’re cute”
3. You are going to feel fear again. I did, after 2 months of working hard on a project and not going out. I haven’t felt approach anxiety in a LONG time. To try to switch up bars, and let your wings know that you’re “rusty” but getting it back
4. After about 20 sets, you’ll start to feel the groove again, and the next day, my game was A LOT smoother. You just have to get back onto the bike again. The muscle memory and all the skills you’ve accumulated are still there player.
5. Have faith in the process. Process > Outcome.
Practical Notes from “Trust Me I’m Lying”
I’m 2 years late to Ryan Holiday’s book “Trust Me, I’m Lying“. Never much of a PR person, I learned quickly from his nonfictional account of being a “media manipulator” that marketing can be everything after you’ve built a great product. Since I have to return the book by 12/20 to the San Diego Public Library, I figured this is a good time to write down my notes as a blog post.
Quotes in “Trust Me, I’m Lying”
“We play by their rules long enough and it becomes our game” –
Orson Scott Card
“Social media isn’t a set of tools to allow humans to communicate with humans. It is a set of embedding mechanisms to allow technologies to use humans to communicate with each other, in an orgy of self-organizing… The Matrix had it wrong. You’re not the batter power in a global, human-enslaving AI, you are slightly more valuable. You are part of the switching circuitry”
-Venkatesh Rao (Entrepreneur in residence at Xerox)
“It’s a prime example of the feminist blogosphere’s tendency to tap into the market force of what I’ve come to think of as “outrage world” – the regularly occurring firestorms stirred up on mainstream, for-profit, woman-targeted blogs like Jezebel and also, to a lesser degree, Slate’s own XX Factor and Salon’s Broadsheet. They’re ignited by writers who are pushing readers to feel what the writers claim is righteously indignant rage but which is actually just petty jealousy, cleverly marketed as feminism. These firestorms are great for page-view-pimping bloggy business.”
-Emily Gould from Slate.com
“Companies should expect a full-scale, organized attack from critics. One that will simultaneously overrun blog comments, Facebook fan pages, and an onslaught of blogs, resulting in mainstream press appeal. Start by developing a social media crises plan and developing internal fire drills to anticipate what would happen.”
“Our illusions are the house in which we live; they are our news, our heroes, our adventure, our forms of art, our very experience.”
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