Trip to Brazil: Rio de Janeiro and Belo Horizonte

Rio

I’m  sitting on the Copacabana beach in Rio in front of the hotel Sol Ipanema overlooking the beautiful ocean in Rio de Janeiro.  To my left there are still volleyball players there playing Brazilian volleyball (where you kick with your feet instead of setting the ball with your hands). Across the ocean are islands. You can hardy see them now in the dark, but during the day they were green and luscious and beautiful. To my right is a rolling hill of lights and hotel signs along the Copacabana beach. Cars roam the streets between the beach and the hotel, even as late as 10pm. I am reminded of the city in Taipei and Jakarta.

I am here with one of my best friends from college, and his future brother in law. Rio is a beautiful city. Many beautiful women. And men. I probably wrote 3 pages of notes tonight, but instead I will store those in my personal diary and stick to the learning. I learned in Rio that while physical looks can be important, what makes Brazilians so attractive is their control of their “essence”. What is “essence”? To me, it is a person’s energetic representation of themselves. The physical and spiritual manifestation of their inner self. The street vendor accepts his role in society. Even the taxi drivers have a keen sense of ruggedness and “dragging along this tough life” look that makes them semi-attractive. To me, I learned that while I focused on my looks so much, I lose much of what I could develop as my “essence”. The ironic thing is that, when people worry about the way they look, the emotional effects of this thinking actually has 0 benefit fo the individual with these thoughts . So why think them? While I still do want to get work done and develop my body, this trip has made me realize that you can have okay looks and still possess mad “essence”.

Belo Horizonte (BH) – pronounced “Be-loo Ho-ri-zon-che”

A town of 4M in population 6 hours north of Rio, this is a true Brazilian town. Foreigners are rare here, as most of the people traveling to BH come fro other parts of Brazil. As such, being a tall Asian guy I am quite a sight to behold and I get a lot of looks in the busy streets as a foreigner. Like many parts of Brazil, there are rich parts and very poor parts (Favelas) of the town. It is still a developing nation. Everything moves slow in BH, including the hotel staff. All of the American guests for the wedding at first got frustrated at the lack of speed and follow through we usually expect to receive at hotel accommodations. By the end of the trip, we just went with the flow. Although people are lazy here, they are happy. Lots of couples roam the streets, people making out in the park, these are all common sights for the citizens of BH.

Natural Player Mindset

I met 2 players on this trip. Mr. T and Deda. Mr T. is a wise man. He’s the father of the groom and we have met before in Miami. The man owns a business there, and has been dating hot girls for ages. He’s the kind of guy that just gets along with everyone, and he has a vibe that is warm and friendly. His conversations are slow, and he sucks you in with the way he talks about life. When asked about girls at dinner over the week, I learned the following things from him:

• It is in man’s nature to want to fuck every single girl he can. Burying this desire doesn’t help things. Understanding it will help you make the right decisions in life and marriage.
• Don’t be shy. Mr. T said when he was young, he used to go to the movie theatres alone. And, in the dark, he’ll lean over and makeout with the girl sitting next to him! We were shocked. “Yes, haha! I got slapped a few times. But I had a few girls who really liked it. I had no shame. Then. There were a few girls that… when the lights came on after the movie and I saw their faces clearly, I started running away as quick as I could!”
• “Don’t take it personally”, T said. He said that for every man, there is a woman who loves him just as the way he is.
• He talked to us about his stance on this marriage, and what it means to be married to a woman. A woman can either lift a man to his highest potential, or drain him of everything and bring him to his lowest self.
• He talked to us about his new wife. At first, I didn’t think much of her. She was homely looking. I know this is a mean thing to say, but given Mr T’s past of the most gorgeous women in Miami we were surprised. He explains that his new wife cares about him, and this is what he wants. It precedes all other things. Above that, he told us that as an older man, the hotter women he met were all interested in him because of his money and power in Miami, and he eventually grew bored of that lifestyle. At the end of the trip, I actually really like his new wife. She was caring and she was genuine, and I haven’t seen this in many girls that I know.
• If you can make a girl laugh, you’ve got her. Keep talking and talking. I’ve seen a guy who at first was rejected by a girl. She said she has a boyfriend. But he kept on at it, and eventually she cracked. The toughest girls, once they crack, the more they are into you. You’re the wolf that keeps playing with the girl, and even if she rejects you, you should both enjoy the chase and have a good time, and be
• It was amazing to me, how many of the things he said correlated to pickup. Ultimately, he told me that I was too analytical, and a more natural approach to women and girls is key. Talking with him, I realized why naturals have such as easy time picking up girls. A natural is in some ways someone who figured it out their own identity and how that identity fulfills their desires with women.

Deda was a cool guy in his late 20′s. He was at a house party with us. We had about 8 girls and 6 guys and we were partying it up at a suburban farm house. Talking with him in the car, I realized he was a player. He told me that he was never shy, and that talking to girls was easy for him and his friends.  I learned the following hanging with him

• “It is not your fault that you do not know Portuguese. You’re a visitor! So just be friendly and people will be friendly back. You have the advantage here”
• “The redhead girl is really into you. You should try to reciprocate now if you are interested in her.” (This girl ended up giving me a handjob in the bedroom)
• “In Brazil, there is a bond among men. We NEVER tell a girl if her boyfriend cheated. It is an honor code. Also, we NEVER steal another man’s girl. There are already so many girls in BH. 7 to 1 ratio, sometimes. But its an unspoken honor code among guys.”
• “If I were you I would try to fuck a new girl every day you are here in Brazil! Haha!”

“Sluts” and “Whores”

These are such ugly terms. Mostly that girls use on other girls. Some guys use it too. I don’t believe in the term because I believe that it is such a double standard and women should be allowed to be as sexually casual as men. However in BH I noticed a big difference between women who use sex to their advantage and others who are more reserved, and then there are those that just are down for anything. These girls who are more “loose” are fun to be around! But they are also not as committed. They are just there to have a good time. Sometimes that is all you need. Other times, having a high class girlfriend is so important in a relationship.

We visited a club in HB, which turned out to be a whorehouse. This place was really, really interesting. If you think the girls in the Snoop Dogg video was hot, imagine seeing a club full of these girls wearing skimpy outfits.

There is a small waterfall in the club. Stripper poles to my right, and left. Tables everywhere. Some guys sitting down talking to girls, other girls hanging out in a line next to the wall. Like PUAs, some whores have game and some don’t. One girl just said, “ok! Let’s fuck! now!”. We didn’t do it. Another girl sat down, talked to us for a while, and then did little things like look at the guy smiling and waiting for him to lead. Those were the girls that got the business. They were happy to do their job. My friend wanted me to experience a hooker, so before I knew it he paid for me. I’ve never paid for sex before, and I suppose I’m not paying for it this time. But he wanted me to know what it was like and how it would change my perception of women. Later the next day, he said, “The lesson I wanted you to learn was that, women, as hot as they are, can be bought, and it is just a piece of pussy. Yes there are good girls, but you must understand that it is not hard to come by. After I slept with a few hookers I realized that underneath it all it is just a regular girl”. This friend of mine happens to be a major business player in the Caribbeans and is currently fucking 2 models.

Back to the whorehouse. The girl I was with happened to be the best fuck I’ve ever had. And she was really, really hot. More so than her physical beauty though, she knew how to make a man feel good. She laughed at everything I said even though she didn’t speak English. She treated me like a real person instead of a customer. In the US I think we call this GFE (Girlfriend Experience). She would pause during sex and look at me and see if I am enjoying it. She also did things to me that, later on I found out hookers usually don’t do with a client. She gave me her number but I lost my phone at the wedding, and therefore lost touch. There are 2 major locations for these whorehouses in BH and Rio. Pricing is actually quite expensive, and this is reflected based on the level of tourism and beauty in Brazil and the young age of the girls.

Hooking up and getting laid in Belo Horzionte

In Rio, there is a place called “Help”. It was detailed in Roosh’s South America PUA blog but we found out that it was bought out and is currently being renovated.

In BH, there is Crystal, a high end hooker place. The girls that work here are young college girls, who are hooking to support their college educations in the city. I confirmed this to be true with the local cab drivers.

There is another club called “Champaign” but cab drivers may not know it by is English name. It is a few blocks south of the Othon Palace hotel, down the bridge and to the right. I forgot the road name but this place had some of the hottest girls since I got here.

There are also 2:1 ratios of girls on the street. You will need to learn a few phrases of Portuguese and see if you can bounce back to the hotel. At 12:00 midnight, escorts roam the Othon Palace front streets and you’ll be able to spot a few if there is no luck at the club.

There is a site called BHmodels.com.br. It lists all the high end escorts for the city. Check it out if you have someone who can speak the language for you.

Social Circle Game: Most guys here have at least a few fuck buddies and girlfriends. Throw a house party. The one we threw, we picked up the girls at 12 midnight on a Thursday. My jaw dropped as we went from door to door picking up girls. I couldn’t believe how easy it was.

Family

There is no substitute for family. A family is more than by blood. It is a bond people share between each other. Like no time has passed, even though all of us have changed over the years. I felt like I was part of the family that so passionately flew all the way from Miami in support of the groom.

Sex Ratio

This is a big lesson for me. While I have been stuck in Sunnyvale, California I was blinded to the immediate and dramatic effect of sex ratios. A slight shift in percentage effects everything. The power balance between the sexes. This is also taking into account the culture, political context and general mating strategies of the other sexes. See “The evolution of desire” by David Buss for more details on the breakdown of this influence.

In short, while walking about in Rio and BH, I get looks  and approach inviations from girls all the time. I had a girl say hi to me once on the street, I was so shocked and I didn’t reply in time. All of the girls we hung out with were down to fuck. In seeking an explanation, I found out that first of all, Brazil has a culture of casual sex and that because of the high female ratio, women are more likely to put up with men having multiple girlfriends.

The approach, however doesn’t change. The man has to lead. It is just that here in Brazil, he has a huge margin of error on his game. And because of this, many of the non shy Brazilian guys have developed a strong natural frame for getting the women they want.

In stark contrast to Silicon Valley, where women vie for the attention of the highest salary executive and use sex to her advantage by seeking out the best long term relationship for herself.

Weddings

Weddings can be boring. They can also be fun. Network. Have fun. Cry. Laugh. The more fundamental thing, however is to understand the power balance within the marriage. I believe that, even in the best of marriages, a man must maintain his power and status relative to the woman. Because if the balance shifts, many things get out of hand.  A man must always be a force of change. Attraction wanes and compliants become common from the woman when this fundamental dynamic changes.

Life is imperfect

Do you know when you are really good friend with someone? When saying good bye isn’t a big deal. Not every moment is like a Hollywood movie. Instead, the best good byes with my friends were the ones that carried on. “Ok. See you man. Stay safe. Don’t be gay! (inside joke)”. Friend gets in the car. “Hey R, so what’re you going to do later”. Calls me at the airport a few hours later, “yeah we’re waiting for the plane. It was really fun man”. My point is, really good friends don’t need hyped up good byes. They are just naturally down to earth, as if we were just “hanging out” again in college.  The same thing applies to girls. You don’t need movie script pickups. Just be down, be cool, and hangout. If you do this with enough girls, you will get laid. I have been blinded by this simple truth living in Silicon Valley for so long.

Looks can be deceiving

I met a HB10 blonde girl, who was the GF of one of my friends. She turned out to be such a good person. I met the wife of another uncle. She looked like a 10 Milf and she had a pornstar face. In talking to her though she was kind of dorky and fun. It was such a weird combination. Piercing blue eyes, and blonde hair, perfect facial symmetry and an ass to die for. Yet as I spoke more and more to her,  I realized that she was actually a really cool girl. I understand now, after speaking with my friend that I’ve been projecting this flawed image of this “model 10 blonde girl”, who I was told by “Game” to “Neg” and “be mean to”. But really, these are reflections of my own insecurities and pre-conceptions of what these women are like. They probably get these from other men as well, and now I understand why beautiful women value good friends. Because good friends can see past their physical beauty more frequently than others.

Genetic Variety

Brazil has many cultures. Not many Asians here in BH and some in Rio. But blacks and whites co-exists. Racism was non-existent. I saw little girls with braided hair and those with flowing dirty blonde hair. My friend explained to me that because of the genes from black people, Brazilians have amazing asses (theory? ). They also end up having these light colored blue, green and hazel eyes. Beautiful. I believe that genetic variety creates physical attractiveness and I witnessed this first hand in Brazil. No wonder half of the Victoria’s Secret line up came from South America.

Brazilian Culture and Women

• While the people here were beautiful, they didn’t have style like we do in the US. The money isn’t there for everyone to shop brand name products. That said, their use of color is amazing. I saw girls in beautiful purple dresses, and green layers. It was beautiful how the women were able to use inexpensive clothing and play around with the colors and styles available to them. Given their amazing natural curves, they looked just as good, and even better than their American counterparts. When you have a gifted body, it makes up for a lack of style. But even the best style cannot account for an unattractive body.
• People are always slow here. It took us 20 minutes to check into our room. Internet service is slower. People move slower. We realized now why America is so rich – we work so hard compared to the rest of the world. I wonder if I got laid for HB10s all day if I would be lazy too.
• Things break here all the time. Glasses break. Door knobs. Plates. Shampoo openers. Things are just not as sturdy and well made.
• The night scene actually isn’t that great! I think people hook up during the day. We went to a local dance club and I realized that it was standard dance game. The girls responded the same way (a bit nicer on the rejections) and the guys were still chodes. I saw more game during the day than night. It seems like nightclubs may be more of a high class event and a lot of the people that already go are friends. I may be wrong on this but we visited 3 clubs in Rio and 2 clubs in BH.
• Soccer is big here in Brazil. Its how the kids become famous and get out of the Favela (ghettos). So is pop culture and movies. One of the kids in “city of God” came from the Favela.
• Girls here don’t have fake boobs. They are 90% of the time real. They are naturally gifted, and even if not so, they have amazing asses to make up for it. There may be a wealth and culture influence too. Brazilians just find natural bodies beautiful. I agree.
• There are white beauties here. The whiter skin, straighter hair girls. They are beautiful. I also saw some really tanned (dark) Brazilian girls. Even though darker skin in Western civilization has been associated with less beautiful (partially due to social conditioning of media) I found the darker skin latinas to be amazingly shaped. Even the black girls have green or blue eyes. It is amazing. The families I saw here sometimes had daughters with black and brown eyes, and the another with blonde and green hair.

“Low class” vs. “high class”

Being here makes me appreciate the wealth we have in America. I also learned that work is not everything. Where Brazilians are poor in economic wealth, they makeup for in riches in love and culture. A distinct difference lies in the poor to middle class people here, in that their minds only expand upon a certain level of acceptance to their lifestyle and quality of living. Ambition goes a long way here in Brazil. The same can be said about the wealthy, middle and poor classes everywhere in the world, I think. With exception of governments that do not promote capitalism and a readily available social ladder where mobility is at least possible. I know plan to return the the US with a renewed focus on achieving financial freedom, while building lasting friendships with all the souls that I am lucky enough to share this experience with in this life.

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