Position of Power vs. Cold Approach Pickup

May 26, 2014 by  
Filed under God of Style, God of Style 2, My Personal Life

Haven’t been out in a while (over 2 months) and this weekend was my first night out in a while. It was interesting. Despite my height there are just some girls who are into you and others who are not. Lesson #1 for cold approach pick up = you cannot control how people respond to you.

Some girls like my height. Others don’t.

Some girls like buff guys. Others don’t.

Some girls like white military guys. Others don’t.

Some girls are horny tonight. Others are not.

Some girls just don’t like Asian/Black/Minority guys. Some girls do.

This is in direct contrast to being a director of a set, or a model on a set. As a model you are treated very well by most people. You have a lot assigned social value automatically. As a CEO running your business, people listen to you and obey your instructions. The random drunk hottie at a bar has no idea who you are, and she’s not likely to respond or give you value until you talk to her and project energy.

Now, there are situations where you are the bar manager, or pay for a table and girls will come up and say hi, but that usually requires money, connections in nightlife, or owning a club.

My point is that you can be the best looking, tall white dude in the world, and you will STILL get rejected. Cold approach pick up is a numbers game, and often times, even with stellar skills, you need to filter DTF girls to pull that night. It is really hard to have a genuine, deep conversation in a club. When I have, none of the girls returned my calls.

Cold approach requires a different mindset or adaptability, and open thoughts. There is no other way. In a way, it is very liberating. You’re hunting in the jungle, and it is survival of the fittest / smoothest. There are no rules, and no social boundaries. Free for all sexual value being traded. No regular social constraints.

Perhaps Owen was right. Keep it light, high energy, and positive energy. Push and pull. The girl will gravitate towards you. I need to polish up my push/pull game, because while at the modeling set girls will auto-assume I’m high value, proper push/pull is the the natural attraction trigger with women in general.

A gentle, light-hearted conversation and chill vibe, adapted to suit the energy of the environment.

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On another note, when you are cold approaching a girl sometimes she has more “power” in a social situation. You can always tell people’s true character when you give them a little power and see how they behave. Give a guy a million dollars (lottery), or give him girls, and see how he acts around you when you’re not “watching”.

Quotes From Other People That Changed My Life

May 5, 2014 by  
Filed under God of Style, God of Style 2, My Personal Life

Me: “Sorry professor, I know I am always late, I’ll work on it”

Professor: “I don’t care about that (being late for class). You have a gift. Your thinking, the way you view business. Don’t waste it”

 -Professor Jeanette asked me to stay after class one day. I thought I was in trouble.


“But…. but … you’re AlphaWolf!?”

 -Fellow PUA who looked up to me, during a night where I was felling down and could not approach a hottie


“What is it like to be tall and good looking?”

 -Fellow friend from SF asked me, on a day I was feeling ugly.


“You’re one of the smartest people I have ever met”

 -Anonymous Friend of a Friend


“Do you want to come in my mouth?”

-One of the most physically beautiful girl I’ve ever met


“There is nothing a teacher can teach you that you don’t already know deep within. All a good teacher does is to remove the debris that sometimes covers the ultimate truth”

-A passage from Ekhart Tolle


“That was a really good walk. I was waiting out back and then as you get on stage I was like ‘oh wow there he goes'”

-Cecilia Aragon, feedback to me after a runway show after walking her design line


“You’re tall, and you have good frame. What a waste, for someone like you not to workout”

-A frenemy from highschool who sided with my bullies, but always tried to discretely help me out. I have conflicting feelings about him. On one hand he could have just sided with me in full. But he sided with my enemies, and would make fun of me sometimes and help me sometimes. Deep inside, he admired my dad and perhaps that filtered onto me a bit. Truth is, he didn’t have to help me at all, and he was also seeking his own form of social acceptance and it was harder with me around. I always remembered this one advice he gave me though.