Bruce Lee and Game
My recent growth in personal development comes from reading biographies and autobiographies of people I admire and find interesting. This includes characters such as Marilyn Monroe, Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Audrey Hepburn. The stories of celebrities and movie stars are far more interesting, I find, than business individuals drumming on about the latest management theories and whatnot.
Of these came the stories of Bruce Lee. From Bruce Lee: The Celebrated Life of the Golden Dragon (John Little) struck a particular chord with me due to its exclusive pictures that were provided by Linda Lee Cadwell
Here are some quotes from the story that I related to my own life. Bruce’s philosophy regarding how to train in martial arts also apply to learning pick up, and any skill, for that matter.
A really trained, good actor is a rarity nowadays – that demand the actor to be real, to be himself. The audiences are not dumb today, an actor is not simply demonstrating what one wants others to believe he is expressing. That is mere imitation or illustration – but it is not creating – even through this superficial demonstration can be “performed” with remarkable expertise.
Pickup Translation: A really trained, good seducer is a rarity nowadays – that demand the artist to be real, to be himself. The girls are not dumb today, an artist is not simply demonstrating what he wants her to believe he is expressing. That is mere imitation, but it is not relating, even through imitation can be performed exceptionally well.
Some martial artists are now going to Hong Kong to be in movies, they think they can be lucky, too. Well, I don’t believe in pure luck. You have to create your own luck. You have to be aware of the opportunities around you and take advantage of them. Some guys may not believe it, but I spent hours perfecting whatever I did.
Pickup Translation: Don’t rely on luck or circumstance. You should be able to create your own pickup situations. You have to be aware of the opportunities around you and take advantage of them. Mastery takes years of practice.
Believe me that in every big thing or achievement there are always obstacles – big or small – and the reaction one shows to such obstacles is what counts, not the obstacle itself.
Yes, there is a difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization.
[What Bruce said]
I know we all admit that we are intelligent beings; yet, I wonder how many of us have gone through some sort of self-inquiries and/or self-examining of all these ready made facts of truths that are crammed down our throats ever since we acquired the capacity and the sensibility to learn?
Pickup Translation: Don’t accept the traditional teaching methods as the only truth. Find your own truth.
The important thing is that I am personally satisfied with my work. If it is a piece of junk, I will only regret it.
Pickup Analogy: If more gurus focused on the artform, more progress can be made in the seduction community.
To bring the mind into sharp focus and to make it alert so that it can immediately intuit truth, which is everywhere, the mind must be emancipated from old habits, prejudices, restrictive thought process, and even ordinary thought itself.
Open your mind and free it of old beliefs and personal prejudices when learning.
One cannot “express” fully – the important word here is fully – when one is imposed by a partial structure or style…he becomes paralyzed within the framework of the pattern and accepts the pattern as the real thing. He no longer “listens” to circumstances, he “recites” his circumstances. He is merely performing his methodical routine as a response rather than responding to what is. He is an insensitized patternized robot, listening to his own screams and yells. He is those classical blocks; he is those organized forms; in short, he is the result of thousands of years of conditioning.
Pickup Translation: Whenever you stick 100% to one system, no matter how great it is (i.e. M3 Model), you are imposed by the very definition of that structure. The student can become paralyzed within the framework or refuse to think outside of that framework. He is performing methodically as a response rather than to what is.
Take for instance the boxer: he will probably criticize the fact the two fighters are too close to allow crispy punching room. On the other hand, the wrestler will complain that one of the fighters should crowd and smother the other’s “crispiness,” and thus be close enough to apply grappling tactics. So a split second between the above two statements, the boxer could have switched into grappling tactics when there is no crispy punching room. The wrestler, when out of distance, could have kicked or punched as a means to bridge the gap for his specialty.
For example, a MM student may be running unnecessary A1 and A2 routines, when a girl he meets already attracted to him at sight. Or, a Juggler and natural who can charm women, but lack the initiative and training to do cold approaches with the girls that they are truly interested in.
True observation begins when devoid of set patterns, and freedom of expression occurs when one is beyond systems.
My only concerns are for those who are conditioned and solidified by a partialized structure, with only routine efficiency, rather than freedom of individual expression.
To set the record straight, I have not invented a new style, that is, set within distinct form as apart from “this” style or “that” style. One the contrary, I hope to free my followers from styles.
[What Bruce said]
Drilling on routines and set patterns will eventually make a person be good according to the routines and set pattern, but only self-awareness and self-expression can lead to the truth. A live person is not a dead product of “this” style or “that” style, he is an individual, and the individual is always more important than the system.
Pickup Translation: Practicing a particular pickup style will eventually make a person good according tot that style and that framework, but only self-awareness and self-expression can lead to the truth. A life person is never a direct correlation to a “style”, rather, he is a unique individual that is ever so different from the system.
Of this I am certain: superior performances in martial art will rest in the future development and not on many of the obsolete and outmoded training methods existing.
Really, there is no rigid form in Jeet Kune Do. All that there is is this understanding: If the enemy is cool, stay cooler than him. If the enemy moves, move faster than him.
Be concerned with the ends, not the means. Master your own manipulation of force.
Don’t be restricted by your form.
To me, ultimately, martial art means honestly expressing yourself.
The future of the seduction art lies in the lack of models and thinking outside of existing models. Don’t be restricted by what you think are limits. Ultimately seduction is really the art of expressing yourself.
A good martial artist does not become tense – but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come.
Pickup Translation: A good seducer does not become tense of nervous – but ready. He is not thinking, but not distant either. He’s ready for whatever may come from an interaction.
Because of styles, people are separated. They are not united together because styles became laws. But the original founder of the style started out with hypothesis. But now it has become the gospel truth. And people that go into it, man, become the product of it. It doesn’t matter how you are, who you are, how you are structured, how you are built, how you are made – it doesn’t matter. You just go in there and be that product. And that – to me – is not right.
But, if you do not have styles; if you just say: “Here I am as a human being, how can I express myself totally and completely?” Now that way, you won’t create a style because style is a crystallization, this way is a process of continued growth.
Pickup Translation: People argue in the community over styles and “schools of thought”. Why? We are all human beings focused on finding ourselves and the truth, and expressing it outwardly as to build a life and be in the relationships we choose to be in.
The word “superstar” really turns me off, and I’ll tell you why, because the word “star”, is an illusion, it is something – what the public calls you. You should look upon yourself as an actor. I mean you would be very pleased if somebody said, “hey man, you’re a super actor!” It is much better than “superstar.”
Pickup Analogy: don’t be fazed or starstruck by instructors. In the end, they are good coaches and (mostly) good people.
Ultimately, martial art is the expression of oneself.
Pickup Translation: Ultimately, any artform is the expression of oneself.
So therefore, my students are coming in and asking me to teach them – not so much how to defend themselves or how to do somebody in – rather, they want to learn to express themselves through some movement; be it anger, be it determination, or whatever. So, in other words, what I’m saying is that the student is paying me to show him, in combative form, the art of expressing the human body.
Pickup Analogy: students that come to study seduction may think they are gaining the tools to meet the women of their dreams, but really, the elite dating coach understands that the students simply wants to learn how to express himself to the world.
Through all of my children’s education will run the Confucianist philosophy that the highest standards of conduct consist of treating others as you wish to be treated, plus loyalty, intelligence, and the fullest development of the individual in the five chief relationships of life: government and those who are governed, parent and child, elder and younger sibling, husband and wife, and friend and friend. Equipped in that way, I don’t think they can go far wrong.
Even though I, Bruce Lee, may die someday without fulfilling all of my ambitions, I feel no sorrow. I did what I wanted to do. What I’ve done, I’ve done with sincerity and to the best of my ability. You can’t expect much more from life.
Rest In Peace, Bruce Lee.
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