Practicing a skill and the path of Mastery

I wrote a letter to my mentors DJ Fuji and Achilles recently. I started noticing a pattern of failure amongst the guys who are studying pickup. Despite their efforts, they are not improving, or improving very slowly.

I started to realize that when I first started this journey in game in 2007, I already had the social skills I needed. I built these skills through business. Presentation, attire, conversational skills. Although I was oblivious to girls, I was able to read basic social cues.

DJ Fuji, however, literally came from scratch. From my observations in field, the guys who are naturally timid or shy, have to pack in a large amount of “social experience” in a compressed frame of time. Because of this, simple mediocre effort on their part just doesn’t work. Simply going to a bootcamp for “entertainment” doesn’t get lasting results.

So as I am helping other guys now, I at one point became frustrated at the lack of progress these other guys were having. I was looking to build an academy of X-men, all with superpowers. Were we still X-men, each with our own unique abilities and heroic characteristics, or were we simply, average, frustrated chumps? (AFCs)

In the book “Influencer“, I found some answers to how people develop genuine mastery of skills. The author discusses the idea of DELIBERATE PRACTICE. Read more

Days 19-21 Seduction Syndicate Learnings

This weekend Casual and I went to LA to visit the Masterminds behind the Seduction Syndicate (henceforth referred to as SS). The SS is a group started by one seduction marketer and now encompasses a large list of online marketers who own dating related websites.

Some of the folks we met this weekend are dating coaches, others are master marketers, SEO experts, content writers, lawyers, among others. We even had a few female coaches and even relationship and sex coaches. Everyone markets their business online in some way and specialize in Affiliate Marketing, Content Development, SEO and running successful and converting online websites.

 

Personal Thoughts

• Maybe selling is helping and they are the same
• 90% of people who buy books don’t make it past the first chapter (Tony Robbins) – people just feel good about buying a book because they think its a quick fix solution to the problem. Same is true for ebooks
• Although these syndicate guys cut corners, they are just understanding and working the system. Is life a system of rules, or are they meant to be broken? Even so, they are doing it via marketing, which means that despite short-cuts, in the end a convincing argument must be made to the costumer to part with his money. Supply and demand are fundamental forces in a capitalistic society. This in itself is better than the survival of the fittest and men killing each other for property.
• Co-competition can be friendly, people are friendly in general. Socially calibrated folks and high value people have a way of interacting that’s just very genuine, authentic and smooth, despite personality differences.

My Progress in Game This Year (2010)

This year has been an eventful one for me. In this post, I’ll talk about my progress in game. That is, how skillful I have become in attracting women and getting laid.

A few months ago I moved a little further north from Sunnyvale, CA. Not too far up. About 3 exits. Those of you who have read my Brazil trip remember the post about coming back from an abundance reality to a starker reality here in The Prince and the Pauper.

Recently, my game has improved significantly. I am unsure what it is. A combination of being on the right path, and also finally attending a bootcamp. You guys will recall that I quit my job and given everything I have been doing now, I feel like I am moving in the right direction. I will write a post about staying motivated when you don’t have a fixed schedule at a later date. Anyway, not working a corporate job anymore, in addition to seeing Tyler Durden and these guys in action really changed me. The infield videos showed me that I wasn’t that far off in my interactions.

At the same time, it showed me that a little tweak here and there can have a subtle but very important difference. The simple fact is that when I speak, sometimes it comes from a place of “wanting something”. But we read about this ALL the time on the forums. To experience it and conceptualize it in footage and then later on in field was something else. There’s a calmness about the way a man speaks that either rings true or gives away his insecurities. What I used to do, however was to draw attention and energy from the girl. Saying things in a way but also unconsciously expecting her to react to it. Instead, I should have been speaking as if I’m playing a game with her.

This is hard to explain in words and I would think that at this point I should stop. You will find this level of unconscious abundance in this video here. As Tyler explains, there is a balance between INTENT vs. Abundance Mentality. Intent is the level of engagement someone has with another person. Abundance mentality is the idea that his thoughts are so deep in abundance that he always knows that the next girl to fall in love with is just around the corner.

Tyler on Abundance (no I am not a RSD Junkie)

I remember reading Gambler’s book and in it, he says you get used to certain types of girls. Read more

RSD Hotseat San Francisco

Re: RSD Hot Seat Event in SF

This is my first “bootcamp” experience of any kind, other than hanging out with Troy Dizon as a friend. I am not affiliated with RSD in any way, although I have been a fan of Tyler Durden’s work since the publication of the Blueprint.

Overall, the hotseat experience was amazing. The cost = $300 USD, well worth the money spent. The most insightful breakdowns happened when the videos were paused, and Tyler explained the subtleties of the pickup.

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Section I: Notes I Wrote Down
1. The look. Tyler: “at a certain point we develop a social intuition for that ‘look’ girls give. Their eyes light up and you know she’s ‘popped’. She’s attracted to you. Take a look at where this happens in this video. Where is it guys? when? when?”. I’ve experienced this before and it was nice to see him break it down on footage.
2. This happens all the time, Tyler: “you have to behave as it this is a normal occurrence for you. Like it happens all the time and it is not a big deal”
3. Life is exciting. Tyler: “but notice how happy my face is when I’m spinning her around”. Life is supposed to be exciting. Picking up girls is fun and exciting. And it should be that way. No matter how many times I do it, whenever I get to this point I always feel it.
4. Logical vs. Emotional Selfs – Tyler showed us a video of a classical “good girl” and how she was asking all these logical questions. He kept on engaging her emotional side and eventually walked her home. Most of us related to girls as a FRIEND to FRIEND relationship. But, chemistry comes from relating as a MAN to a WOMAN relationship.
5. Jeffy: “Yeah I am usually like XXX (an asshole). Times 5.”
6. Accepting a girl for who she is. Not judging her for having a sexual side. Read more

How Surfing is Like Pickup

Surfing is a lot like picking up girls in the following ways:

• When you first hit the water your body feels a natural rush. As the first wave hit you a combined sense of excitement and fear runs through your whole body.
• There are many waves: some are better than the others, some are great waves that have much force and power, some waves are small and gentle. When you catch a great wave you feel like just conquered the world. And then there’s always the one that got away.
• in order to get to where the waves break you have to go under the forceful ones and over the gentle ones. Sometimes you have  get around the obstacles to get to the riding point
• You have to ride long and hard
• You fear the big waves, just as you fear the challenges
• Afterward, you feel a strong sense of accomplishment
• You have to catch the right one so that it can take you as far as you can go
• Sometimes ,there’s that beautiful wave that got away
• After riding a few big waves, you learn how to handle it and the task becomes easier and easier.