Fallacies of the Seduction Community #3: Hot Chicks are AWESOME!

I used to think hot girls are awesome, worth more than anything I have in my life. This of course stems from 23 years of being a virgin and focusing only on my studies and business. I was 20 at the time, worked a management consulting gig most grads would be envious of, and lived in a nicely rented apartment in the New York city area. But I couldn’t get girls at all. So, of course, over 23 years of social conditioning I believed the 9s and 10s and hot girls were THE most important thing in life that I could attain or “possess”.

Up until very recently, I still believed that a true 9 or 10 in terms of physical looks is still the most valuable thing and I couldn’t get this thought out of my head. It started to really bother me, and unconsciously I started looking for solutions to my problem or discover my thoughts in more depth. As I am writing this I am also dating this beautiful blonde, east coast graduate from an ivy league school and knowing her personally gives me a greater understanding that just because a girl went to a good school and that she looks great, it doesn’t mean she’s socially calibrated or super interesting to be around. In fact, it could very well be the opposite.

The fact is, most people (male and female) haven’t really accomplished anything significant in life. For a lot of “club hot girls”, she hasn’t accomplished anything in life other than being hot. Because, just by being so, she is rewarded by chode guys who will spend a lot of energy and time trying to get her. In truth, though, she secretly desires the Mr. Big (Sex And The City) – a guy who is strong enough to give her the sense of security and deep attraction she needs as a woman. Here are some of the 9s and 10s that I number closed but couldn’t fully close. I sent them in an email to my coach Fuji:

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So my  coach DJ Fuji writes back:

Couple quick thoughts because I’m teaching in vegas at the moment…

The reason you’re not getting these girls are because you think of them as “those girls” and not like “just girls.”

There’s nothing universally harder about those “types” of girls other than that you think they’re harder.

You’re putting too much importance on the interactions and it’s subsequently making you run sloppy game. I’ll bet if you showed me your text logs with these girls, i’d pick out about a hundred tactical mistakes. Mostly because you’re intimidated by them.

When you hear advice, even good advice, it never really quite sinks in until you personally experience

Brad on what hot chicks really are in reality:

Technique-wise – how are 9s and 10s different? Brand Benson explains:

As my game has gotten better over the last few months, I am finding myself with options to have relationships with the girls I previously only slept with a few times. I am seeing that I can one night stand 8s sometimes (but not see them again). When I get to a level where I am gaming 9s and 10s on a regular basis, with the option to turn it into a relationship, I think that’s where I will be satisfied and focus on something else. Until then, I will feel like that’s the goal to reach and it will always be a priority for me.

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  1. Great points. DJ Fuji was right, the hottest girls are still girls like any other. They have insecurities, hang-ups, fears, etc. In fact, they often have more issues than slightly less attractive girls because they are acutely aware in the back of their mind that (1) their social power stems almost entirely from their looks, and (2) looks are fleeting. A bad hair day, a few extra pounds over the holidays, a bad night’s sleep–and suddenly she will feel that male attention wane. Of course, to a guy with absolutely nothing interesting going on in his life, that hot girl is still worthy of worship.

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