FR from last night when your friends ditch you, you should…
*It has been a day of etching in lessons (see video at the end for my reference)
(I don’t always have these, but when I am deep out in the field they come to me more often while I am connected to a different frequency of consciousness relating to different types of people)
- San Diego is a small, friendly town. If I can’t own it here, I don’t deserve to be anywhere else. Not the bay, LA, or NYC.
- The airport is 15 minutes away from my house. I can still live here and travel consistently.
- Most foreigners and international students don’t make it here. They end up hanging out with themselves. While most are friendly, 1 of 2 things happen:
- They accept the fact that they won’t assimilate, and just give up and enjoy what they have
- They make excuses as to why they cannot assimilate, why Americans are _____ (boring, rude, un-cultured, you name it). When people have to make excuses, they are usually insecure and defensive about something else. You don’t have to make fun of them about it. Just accept it and try to understand them.
- The 3rd and most unlikely scenario is the foreigner who decides that he or she is going to get what’s hers, and that nothing is going to stop them from doing so. Therefore he assimilates, he makes the effort to understand the culture, and ventures out of his comfort zone to understand the culture to to become one with the culture. This takes strong dedication and most importantly a decision needs to be made. Think Jake from Avatar.
FR from last night:
Most of my FRs are are accompanied by 4 hour soundtracks of audio. I will share those with my training coach, Psych separately. Here is the FR in text.
Last night we hit up Alesso, one of the European DJs that’s making it big in the US as part of the EDM trend. I get a tip about it from my female roommate and decide to go. I thought when she invited me that we were going together, however the European girls had other plans. My other male roommate asked me to get him a ticket, so I did.
Around 7:30pm we head out and the line is huge. Lots of teenagers with fake IDs. Ha. It was pretty funny. I adapt and loosen up my jacket a bit. Time to play young. Good thing I’m Asian and age well.
Female roommate ends up not texting until way later, telling us she and her friend went and “got bored” and left. I just text “lame. you guys have no idea”. I don’t even think they realized that the music that was playing was a pre-cusor to Alleso actually performing. I would used to get upset about these things but tonight I was surprisingly calm. I tell my male roommate we’ll have a good time anyway.
While in line, some girl approaches us and asks for tickets. He engages her in conversation and almost sells the ticket. I look at him incredulously, “wait, you’re ditching me AND selling your ticket to someone else?” He has the courtesy to say, “ok, I’m sorry” and gives me the ticket. But he goes home. I should have known because he always ditches me or the whole crew whenever we go out and we do something that’s slightly out of his comfort zone. I make a mental note to never go out with him again without making secondary plans and move on. Now I had to find someone as a wing. Unfortunately no one could make it out that fast, so I had a decision to make: do I sell my tickets to the people walking around, or do I go in and have fun?
I decide that the worse case was that I go in and didn’t like it. It wasn’t about the money for me. So I roll in and the night begins. Forgive and forget. I realized from previous experiences I can either vent and be burdened by my thoughts of my friends ditching me, or I can move on and have a good time. If those are your two choices, what would you do?
I walk up to 2 girls by themselves before I enter the stadium. They are trying to sell their ticket because they can’t get in with their fake IDs. I find out they are 15 and 18. The 15 year old asks me if I know any parties downtown. She seems excited. I banter. Its pretty easy pretty much any line you throw out they laugh I guess they haven’t heard many guys who actually have something interesting to say. Innocence is bliss.
The 15 year old starts saying, “yeah let’s party I’m totally down, so is my friend. Do you know of a house party nearby”
Me: “slow down. Maybe we should exchange names first”
They are completely down. I shouldn’t have talked about age when I asked her she asked me how old I was I said, “guess’. At this point some guys who were buying tickets come up and buy the tickets from the girls. As I am negotiating my tickets thinking I could roll with these two, she asks my age. I answer honestly, “I just turned 30″. As I am talking to the ticket guy I overhear she and her friend talking, “he’s 30!” and eventually walk away. Interesting. Andy (RSD) was right. You have to lie about your age its like they are socially conditioned to not respond to someone above a certain age.
I used to think that brutal honesty was the best policy. I still do, most of the time. But I’ve come to realize that sometimes, you need to make things comfortable for the other person. From a different perspective, brutal honestly is a selfish act. You’re not taking into consideration the other person’s feelings. I very rarely lie in my life up until this point, and people have always considered me very idealistic and naive. But as of late, I realized that to be a gentleman, or a “good person”, telling the truth 100% isn’t always best for my own interest, as well as the interest of others. Read more
Gauntlet 2.0 and Decisions
Decisions are the key to living a purposeful life. I learned this from reading Tony Robbin’s “Awaken the Giant Within“, a book that I reviewed a long time ago but forgot many of the obvious and yet extremely important principles.
Decision #1: My future is in San Diego, at least for the next year 2014 to 2015. I’ve decided this to be the case. However, I don’t wan to keep the apartment the rent + furniture rentals are too high for my needs. I’ve always lived a low cost lifestyle so I can leverage my savings, and I will continue to do so. Perhaps come April, a few months beforehand I start scouting houses. A nice place near a campus or downtown could ensure good female roommates.
Decision #2: I don’t want to spend 100% of my time in front of a computer, and I do want to work and be in a somewhat “competitive” environment in order to grow stronger. I will continue my online ventures but plan accordingly. Starting 1/1/2014, I will take on a bartender or retail job here in San Diego.
Decision #3: I want a 9 or 10. I want to sleep with them consistently. Whether this will make me happy or not I don’t know, but I need to pursue this goal in order to find the answers for myself. To this extent, I must also be a 9/10 in their eyes, physically, mentally, and spiritually. I want to hold myself to a higher standard of being. While the 9 or 10 is physical for me at the moment, my ultimate desire is to find a 9 or 10 physical looks and inner beauty. I am dead set on this, and I will do everything I can to achieve this. I have bled to become a 9 or 10 myself, and now I will continue to evolve with the strength of my body and bulk up.
Decision #4: I wanted to run an agency, but a modeling agency is most likely to succeed in LA. However, in San Diego, Push Models is here and there are many promotional events (conference, Comic Con). I wanted to run an agency that recognizes a girl’s talent and is able to immerse my business skills with hot girls. The end goal for me = HOT GIRLS + COOL PROFITABLE BUSINESS. I have decided that I don’t need to move to LA to make this happen. I like living in San Diego.
Goal: 178lbs without food weight
[See KK’s email]
Phase 2, medium weight, perfect form
5 minute running at 6.0 speed
Monday:Chest and Biceps
Bench press incline x 10 x 3
Bicep curl x10 x 3
Bench press x 10 x 3
Another bicep exercise (alternate) x10 x 3
Push ups x 10 x 3
Tuesday: Back and Shoulders
Dead lift x 10 x 3
Shoulder exercise x 10 x 3
Pull down x 10 x 3
Shoulder extensions x 10 x 3
Back extension x 10 x 3
Shoulder lift x 10 x 3
Wednesday: Abs and yoga (stretching)
Sit ups x 30 x 3
Leg ups x 30 x 3
Yoga class x 1
Wed night basketball
Thursday: Legs and abs
Squat x 10 x 3
Sit ups x 20
Leg Extensions x 10 x 3
Cross extension sit ups x 30
Front leg extension x 10 x 3
Back leg extension x 10 x 3
Regular sit ups x 30
My game learning plan
Goal: follow Psych’s exact instructions.
- 4x a week FR
- at least 2 in field audio files
- at least 10 sets per outing
- Approach the hottest girls first unless you have a solid plan to get to her
- write all FRs 4x a week
My Honeyplex Web design plan
1) finish designs send to designer
2) programmer instructions for framework
3) design the layout and slogan
4) Write content for the site. Figure out what you want to say – we don’t take just any client, only the best, we choose to take you as a client, not the other way around
5) Fun spirited, creative, mobile, agile, adaptable
6) Client E-contract system
7) Re-occurring payment system (monthly)
8) User easy sign up or contact UI – need pricing models, and products they can “add on”. SEO, PPC, Design
Pending: Getting a job I like plan. I am going to hold off on this until 1/1/2014, or until I get the rest of these goals started and on-track
Gauntlet 2.0 Goals
These goals are developed to help push me to the next level, and to have a consequence (negative) for not completing them. Furthermore, I will have the support of the guys in the mission in order to accomplish these.
1. Finish the Honeyplex website (www.honeyplex.com)
Consequence if not completed: $100
2. Immerse in 1 on 1 training with DJ Fuji
- Write and analyze all texts to improve text game (all TEXTS with girls I’m interested in dating)
- Record in field x2 /week
- Download App and record and analyze all calls with girls for Android phone
Consequence if not completed: $300
3. Get to 175 lbs without any food in my stomach, muscle mass only.
This will require me to go from 168 to 175 weight and a rigorous diet and training regimen
Consequence if not completed: $100
Text and Phone Game
DJ Fuji gave me some very good advice because of my high flake rate with 9s and 10s. Lately I have been getting offers for sex from a) fat girls b) ugly girls but not with the models I’ve met (yet) or any of the really hot blonde girls. It is getting frustrating and is starting to effect my mental state.
Even though he’s not here in person, just describing my situation to him, he seemed to naturally understand some of my sticking points. I have 3 areas of improvement:
I lose a lot of girls on this one. Some tips for me were to talk about an event I am doing anyway, without inviting her. She will invite herself. A lot of guys will brag or talk about an event like he’s doing it just to invite her.
You can’t sell someone something until they are ready to be sold, so keep building comfort, and/or attraction via text. The best way to do this is actually via a phone call. Kezia Noble talks about how to do this in her Text and Phone Game ebook from a woman which I found VERY interesting.
This requires time. The way to do this during daygame is just to insta-date. Night game makes EC harder to do because of the environment. Unless you can spend some quality time with her or have massive social value flash game, most night game numbers are flakey unless you have solid game, or she knows you from somewhere, or you one night stand her.
There are ways to build EC with vulnerability and authenticity, however in general EC is harder to build on the first meet. Getting her just on the phone without asking her out helps.
Talk about the events you are doing, if something she likes clicks, she will give you interest. Then you can talk about doing that together. Ask her what she’s doing and what her schedule is like. The point of talking about your events is because you are actually planning them. Only invite a girl to an event AFTER she shows interest, otherwise, don’t. Be implicit.
The Wisdom of Anger
When I was a kid I got angry at a slightly fatter friend of mine. This was around 8-10 years old. He said something bad about me and I confronted him with the other kids. I was a little taller and dominant in my personality, so the other kids followed me. I threw a rock at the fat kid and luckily it hit him in the stomach. He was hurt but he recovered. The parents got involved, and I was grounded. My parents (rightfully so) told me to apologize to him, and I said “I’m sorry”. I since recall this memory in embarrassment and shame. Kids have a way of just being honest and sometimes we become friends and other times we butted heads. I was genuinely sorry and we became friends again, but things were never the same between that other kid and me.
As adults we have a tendency to hide our anger, for professional or diplomatic reasons, and sometimes this anger manifests itself in unhealthy ways. I’ve learned through trial and error now that sometimes my anger is justified, and instead of suppressing righteous anger, you should just let it out or it will fester. Read more