Denver, CO Field Report

Denver is beautiful city. I was lucky enough to have time to go out with 2 local wings while I was there for work. Here are my brief FRs and life lessons.

Wednesday night we hit up a few bars downtown. 5 degrees was happening and there were plenty of girls. I chat up a few sets for warm up. A 2 set opens well, and I isolate the brunette to the corner. She’s into me. We talk for 30 minutes, my wing could not hold, and end up interrupting my set. I asked for 2 minutes, and as the girl asked me to dance with her, I said I have to find my friend. Even though I got her number, I think I lost her there. We chat up a few more girls at 5 degrees, there were a lot of hotties that we should have approached – the ratio was great!

We end up at another less crowded bar .This is where it gets interesting. I see AI from a brunette sitting down. I open,FTC, and sit. We chat for a long time. Her friend interrupts. I handle, I think her friend is into me. I then take her friend all the way across the bar, and introduce her to my wing. They talk for a bit, and I build rapport with my HB.

We end up making out. My line was a kiss gambit that I made up: “on a scale of 1-10, how good are you at kissing?”

Whatever the answer, “Prove it” – if BT is high and she’s attracted, you have pretty good chance of k-closing. Her HB Blonde friend returns. 2 set again. I said, “you didn’t like my friend?” She said, “He’s nice”. That’s girl code for “she’s not into him”. Great. Now I have to hold a 2 set. To my surprise, blonde girl says she’s a good kisser too. I replied, “oh really”. And she says, “yes, let me show you” and end up making out with me. She was better than her friend!

That was quite a show. Everyone in the bar was looking at me, including the HB waitress who I chatted up later but did not close because she moved to Denver for her boyfriend. After that I was on, and we opened another 3 set of blondes and dominated. Great night. Great ratios!

Friday night – I am on my own at Church. Awesome location – kind of reminds of me of Medjools in San Francisco, lots of rooms, different opening opportunities. I met the guys running the Denver lair. We open a lot sets. One cougar ended up propositioning me. I dance with her, make out, but she wasn’t that good of a dancer or kisser, which actually turned me off. I got her number for a late night booty call, which she agreed to, but I never called her after that as I was leaving at 8am tomorrow morning.

One set I remember was with Lauren – she’s actually a wing girl for the lair. I didn’t know this and we made a funny bet which I will keep between us. She ends up winging me, and we try to pickup another girl to make out with us. That was the highlight of tonight. I open a cute brunette, very young – she hooks and starts giving IOIs (hair strokes, interested body language). Lauren comes in and immediately you see her stroke her hair again and subtle IOIs like licking her lips. We were a little too forward, “She’s cute, isn’t she?” and I went too fast for asking for kiss, “we can’t decide who’s the better kisser”. And HB young brunette said, “I am not kissing you guys! I am not like that!”

We lost the set, but it was fun. Lauren was a great wing and a good sport.

2 local guys and I hit up another joint. A lot of guys here actually – the ratio is more off on Friday, but still around 50-50, which is better than San Jose any night. They end up kind of stalling, so I leave on my own, open a few sets. One girl sticks, dance game, we sit down and somehow she turns it into a work conversation because she’s interested in her career. I try to help but really did eject after it got boring. Another 2 set: black girl who’s very cool and her blond friend who is pretty hot. At this point my wings were about to leave, I say to the blonde, “too bad, I wish we had more time”. Her smile was memorable. It was a slightly disappointed but pretty smile.

Overall, we had great night. Some lessons from Denver

1. People may argue about the power structure of lairs and how they test new members. The thing is, action speaks louder than words. I think having wing girls was great; they could give real advice for the guys in field. I think for the first time, it was ok not to let them know that these were PUA-knowledgeable girls. I was surprised, and really after that I was somewhat more attracted to her because she understood game. Basically, as interview night (AKA initiation), the guys are told to approach the girls at Church. Some of these girls are actually community girls, and afterwards gives real feedback on how well the new aspiring PUAs approahed.
2. The community gets a lot of flak, but so far, I have traveled to Vegas, Denver, and everywhere I go, really, the guys are meet are solid dudes. They are genuine, understand life’s dilemmas, and have genuinely extended their hospitality to show me around their town. I thank Scott, Jeff, Nevious among others for this. For our community is not just about pickup, it is about life. I think despite some losers, really weird WAFCs, AMOGing, overall, there is an underlying sense of brotherhood among PUAs. And this part of our culture I admire.
3. I thought game was easier in Denver on Wednesday, but Friday night was similar to SF. More guys, more players on weekends. Game is game, and no matter where you go, you still have confront those fears that are inside of you. I felt free, and since my comfort zone had already pushed by the new bed, hotel, airport wait times, I was bolder. My body language changed. Ken noticed I always maintained a tall, non-slouching body and never seemed to lose alpha body language status. This is great as I felt like I see myself now in the mirror, shoulders high, head up, and this really helps your confidence once you start getting IOIs based on your physical build and the way you carry your body. Even male models have to constantly study their facial expression, walk, and body language.
4. I believe in action nowadays. Improvisation class has helped me a lot in my game, and I believe that game routines are no longer necessary for a successful pickup. Life has too many variables, and it is our subconscious that often carries our game as well as the conscious routines, memorized lines. There’s a certain freedom and boldness and spontaneous conversation, and I am starting to enjoy it.

Being Great is easier than being Good

In Jim Collin‘s “Good to Great”, Jim and his team of researchers detail their painstaking research on companies that have started out as Good and, through a process, has become Great. Following “Built to Last”, which explored companies that were founded under strong culture and foundations, Jim received a question at dinner one night from a McKinsey partner:

“Well Jim, that’s great that these companies are already great – they had great founders and a foundation for sound processes, but how do normal companies become great in the first place?” Read more

Business vs. Love Part 5

You know the feeling.

Friend calls you up to go out, there’s an event at a bar. Same scene, same girls. You wonder if you should muster up the courage and energy to go out, or decide to stay in and make some progress on that website you have been trying to launch in the past 6 months.

Scenario 2 – you have been doing well at work lately – new job and new promotion. 2% salary raise. Yeh. You decide to go out more this week with your friends. You get a few number closes, but none of them return or pick up when you text/call. You wonder where your game has gone wrong, and after a while decide “fuck it” and focus on some other area in your life. Maybe you’ll muster up the anger or motivation to call up a few PU friends and ask for their advice, but ultimately, the game dynamics go back to you.

You go back to focus on work, but you realize that you are working your ass off for your company and they are making all of the money. The constant ass kissing and power maneuvers at work get to you. You decide to start your own company on the side. You do some research and work, but really have no idea where to start. You write a business plan.

A friend’s birthday comes up – you decide to go. You hit it off with this girl, and decide your game isn’t so bad after all. You go out a few more times over the next 2 weeks – some nights are good, some night are not. A lot of effort is being put into this and the results of lays is not showing.

If the above 5 paragraphs sound remotely familiar, that is because I have experienced it first hand. I have been writing these “Business vs. Love” posts for…. 1 year now!

It took a some simple advice from one group member, a Stanford PhD student at our MasterAlliance meeting to wake up me, “R, maybe there are just excuses? I mean, when I didn’t want to work out, I was throwing out the exact same reasoning as you. These are just excuses that stand in your way. Maybe I am wrong, but think about it.”

He’s right. The truth is, if it came down to it, I would choose love over money. Because love transcends material things, even this life, money is only a tool we use to trade things of perceived value in this world. But achieving both often means going after something the right way. You want to pickup a girl? Focus and learn from each set’s mistake. Don’t over analyze your sets, and focus on your skill set. Film yourself if you have to to see your flaws.

Waiting for that business plan? It is not going to write itself. Stop watching porn and if you are going to blow off your friends, make a commitment to finish 20% of that plan by the time you go to sleep. These are things that are definite and require energy, but the fact is sometimes this pain of exerting energy is better than the pain of mind-numbing and time passing that comes from doing a lot of things that are 1. half assed and 2. not significant anyway.

“With Scarcity comes Clarity” – Sergey said recently in the economic downturn, and this is another sage advice that I am lucky enough to see working at Google.

Claudia Schiffer in GQ, August 2008

Claudia Schiffer (born August 25, 1970) is a German model and actress, who reached the height of her popularity during the 1990s and is one of the world’s most successful models.

Notice how much expression she puts into her poses, every picture tells us a story depending on her body language and the expression of her face. She steals the show from the camera.

In this picture, a sense of lust and curiosity and sinful playfulness:

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