My recent interview with Marni from Wing Girl Method. Enjoy.

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Part II

This is a public service announcement post for those of you that are suffering from the abuses of a bad boss at work.

Workplace Abuse Data

Born from a personal hatred for people who abuse their power, I went on to discover that the statistics paint a pretty horrible picture as well at the work place:

• The Phenomena of “work place bullying and mobbing” is little known, which is surprising, since it affects 70% of working Americans at some time in their career.
• According to the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute, an abusive boss is more likely to be a woman than a man. Woman to woman bullying represents 50 percent of all workplace bullying; man to woman is 30 percent, man to man 12 percent and woman to man bullying is extremely rare — only 8 percent. Read more

This year has been an eventful one for me. In this post, I’ll talk about my progress in game. That is, how skillful I have become in attracting women and getting laid.

A few months ago I moved a little further north from Sunnyvale, CA. Not too far up. About 3 exits. Those of you who have read my Brazil trip remember the post about coming back from an abundance reality to a starker reality here in The Prince and the Pauper.

Recently, my game has improved significantly. I am unsure what it is. A combination of being on the right path, and also finally attending a bootcamp. You guys will recall that I quit my job and given everything I have been doing now, I feel like I am moving in the right direction. I will write a post about staying motivated when you don’t have a fixed schedule at a later date. Anyway, not working a corporate job anymore, in addition to seeing Tyler Durden and these guys in action really changed me. The infield videos showed me that I wasn’t that far off in my interactions.

At the same time, it showed me that a little tweak here and there can have a subtle but very important difference. The simple fact is that when I speak, sometimes it comes from a place of “wanting something”. But we read about this ALL the time on the forums. To experience it and conceptualize it in footage and then later on in field was something else. There’s a calmness about the way a man speaks that either rings true or gives away his insecurities. What I used to do, however was to draw attention and energy from the girl. Saying things in a way but also unconsciously expecting her to react to it. Instead, I should have been speaking as if I’m playing a game with her.

This is hard to explain in words and I would think that at this point I should stop. You will find this level of unconscious abundance in this video here. As Tyler explains, there is a balance between INTENT vs. Abundance Mentality. Intent is the level of engagement someone has with another person. Abundance mentality is the idea that his thoughts are so deep in abundance that he always knows that the next girl to fall in love with is just around the corner.

Tyler on Abundance (no I am not a RSD Junkie)

I remember reading Gambler’s book and in it, he says you get used to certain types of girls. Read more

Diamonds are made from intense pressure over time. Likewise, the greatest of humans are made from extraordinary circumstances. While we don’t like to feel like we’re in a predicament, those moments teach us lessons and make us make decisions that reveal who we really are to the world and to ourselves. Instead of staying “comfortable” and “safe”, make an effort to push out your comfort boundaries. That is the only way you are going to become better than you currently are. A couple of lessons over the past few weeks:

1. I was a salsa club and as usual danced and practiced my moves. On the way out I saw a guy named Leo. Leo was in a wheelchair. Despite this, he chatted me up and asked the bouncer if there was an elevator to get upstairs. “What happened?” I asked. He said, “Accident, years ago” and then changed the topic. It simply wasn’t important to him.

He proceeded to head up with a girlfriend of his. Though my encounter with him was brief, I thought to myself, “here I am worried about forgetting my steps to a routine. How selfish. At least I have legs that I can still walk on”. Then I thought about all the guys who complain about “game” being too hard, or girls being mean to them. These excuses seem lame and undoubtedly selfish when you see a guy in a wheelchair, having a better time than you. With nothing more than the strength and positivity of his thoughts. Read more

Makeup trick of the year: The smoky raccoon eyes. No, I’m not talking about the Coon…

My Texan roommate: “yeah she was cute. Blond girl. One of those with really white skin. And those big black raccoon eyes” Read more