Fallacies of the Seduction Community #2: Alpha Status and Likeability are Inversely Related
Problem: PUAs are afraid of looking “beta” or less “alpha” by appearing to be too friendly. PUAs act more alpha because they think that is what they are supposed to do to DHV and get higher value, in turn to get the girl and show off to other PUAs.
- Newbies look nervous, never smile, trying to be cool
- Keeps assessing what other people think of him, instead of what he thinks about himself and the situation
- Always worried about losing value
- Acting or relating to impress, instead to express
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Fallacies of the Seduction Community #1: Openers are a big deal
Problem: PUAs don’t know how to open, mis-calibrate on the open, or think too much about it.
A PUA goes up to a set, walking in a clunky way. He stops awkwardly, and then suddenly, his face animates up and his voice blasts out, “Hey guys! Can I get a quick opinion on something!?!”
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Do your emotions control you, or do you control your emotions?
Our emotions are hardwired into place for our benefit, mostly. Natural selection has secured humans to respond quickly and drastically to physical and emotional pain and seek comfort and safety. This has helped us survive for thousands of years.
The same emotions that allow us to sit on a couch and watch TV because we are comfortable is also the same emotion that helped our ancestors survive when they were in a resource rich territory.
Some people let emotions run their lives – the react to certain events. They react to other people’s emotions and actions, they get carried away. They are forever in a reactive mode.
Strong people tend to have control over stimulus and chosen response. That is, they recognize that certain things cannot be within their circle of influence. However, they can always control how they respond to the circumstance. As such, they are no longer an instrument of their emotions. Rather, they become masters of their own feelings of happiness and contentment. Read more
Do Not Shine Your Light Where It Is Not Welcomed
I am feeling strong mixed emotions right now and am compelled to write this post. Perhaps it will be a rambling of sorts however in deciphering this rambling for myself I believe that within this lies very important lessons in game and life.
Looks Matter. Here’s How
I think the whole idea that looks don’t matter for guys is complete bullshit. There. I said it.
Your looks matter, a lot.
I am a deep guy. I am above average good looking. Like, a 7 or 8. However, I am (not yet) model looking. I am ashamed to say this, but I have slept with girls who only liked me for my looks, and I have seen other guys sleep with girls with boyfriends primarily based on their looks alone. I have seen girls choose guys over looks.
Scientifically, it has been proven (The Survival Of The Prettiest) that women will sleep with men who appear to have dominant traits during ovulation and more passive traits when raising a child. Obviously, from these casual sex sessions, girls will start to develop more intimate relationships with these “alpha” guys.
That is just a fact of life, whether you have different internal values or not, the dating game skews in this direction on a macro level. To change the game would require a cultural and perhaps biological change. Read more
July 2012 Income Report
Net Income: About $2150 – 700 = $1450
AlphaCasual Productions: $2000
Expenses for ACP: 200
Expenses for Honeyplex: 500 (AdWords, outsourcing design and back-end product stuff)
1. Haste makes waste.
2. Take the time to learn the skills you need.
3. Don’t work TOO hard. When you hit something hard over and over again, take a break and come back to it. Your subconscious mind will work on solving the problem. Remember when you are young and you were playing a video game and you didn’t know how to solve a particular problem? You would sleep on it and eventually your mind figures out a way to solve it and you can’t wait to play the game and and try the new theory? This is what happens when you are devoted to what you do.
4. Change your story – don’t make your job an obstacle – use it as a tool to build discipline.
5. When lost, focus on the end user and all else will follow (Larry Page)