Lessons from the OG and Visiting Miami

November 3, 2012 by Vince Lin  
Filed under Learn about Pickup, My Personal Life

I had a few epiphanies while traveling to Miami this time. Here they are.

1. The closer you are to the truth, the more profitable you will be – business lesson

2. In Miami, girls are more calibrated to approaches. They act more “icy” or cool and collected. There are still bitches here too but the ones that are open are more talkative and less “deer in the headlights” – game lesson

3. Practice the consistency of putting yourself out there unapologetically – as it. “This is me”. The more you do this, the better your game gets.

4. There is a subtle (sometimes not so subtle) cultural component to long term relationships. This is based on mutual necessity and desire. Read more

Why Opinion Openers work

October 26, 2012 by Vince Lin  
Filed under Learn about Pickup

When genuinely curious, opinion openers work great. See 29:00 onward on why that is (Sean Stephenson explains):

Fallacies of the Seduction Community #7: Getting Laid Makes Your Self Image and Game Better

October 9, 2012 by Vince Lin  
Filed under Learn about Pickup

Getting laid gives you a certain sense of ease, a sense of accomplishment within.

However, have you ever gotten laid, and then got rejected just as bad one night as other nights when you didn’t get laid?

The outside person doesn’t know what you just accomplished. A new set is just that: a new set. The stock market is not going to give you better luck or conditions just because you made a lot of money on a previous trade. Reality is constantly changing and so are the variables.

Imagine a celebrity in Taiwan talking into a US airport. Unless he’s already hit mainstream here, he’s unidentifiable. Jackie Chan explained this in his autobiography “no one knew who I was!”

Also, getting laid by the same girl will increase your laziness – you won’t want to go out. But again, does LeBron James quit practicing basketball because he’s won a game? He’s playing for the big prize – his legacy. There’s no stopping. Likewise, until you reach your pick up goals, don’t stop. If you meet a truly great girl, perhaps make that decision. For me, until I get the skills I need to bed any hot girl level I want, I can move on. This assumes that the perfect girl doesn’t show up in the meantime

Do not confuse getting laid with getting better at game. Yes, you get more comfortable and your sex skills improve. However, you are still approaching a new set and the same guidelines apply.

Tyler explains in this video why if you don’t go out, your self esteem actually improves. To deal with the “war zone” and constant social velocity out here in the world can be tough:

Tyler on not going out and not dealing with REJECTION

Fallacies of the Seduction Community #6: If I improve with women, my friends will think I’m awesome!

October 7, 2012 by Vince Lin  
Filed under Learn about Style

Fallacy: If I improve with women, my friends will think I’m awesome!

Actually, for a short time, your friends will think you’re awesome. They may at first consider you weird, if you don’t go ALL OUT. However, you may start seeing success after a while, and your friends may offer congratulations.

Consistent improvement, however, and life changing behavior patterns, will put distance between you and your friends. After all, your views of the world and limiting beliefs are different. Oprah once said that when she lost weight she also fought with her larger friends – because her losing weight reminded them of their own weight still being high.

Here’s Tyler on why your friends may not find learning about pick up as awesome as you do:

People’s real behavior is observed in their real choices, and these real truths are sometimes hidden from the public. Learn to read through the social fabric. My coach once told me: think of the journey as you traveling along the desert. Occasionally a friend will come and walk the path with you, however in the beginning  and the end, you are always alone. Accept this fact, and take responsibility for your independence.

The game “Journey”, critically acclaimed (commercial decent) game is a good reflection of most people’s personal journey in life:

Fallacies of the Seduction Community #5: Getting a Girlfriend is Hard

October 7, 2012 by Vince Lin  
Filed under Learn about Pickup

Actually… it is relatively easy.

Getting the right girl, falling in love, is hard. After getting a GF, things get personal, it is not a game anymore.

Before this, at times it may seem like it is impossible to get laid, but keep in mind that getting a commitment from any girl isn’t difficult. After all, women are on average 51-52% of the population.

The hard thing is to decide which girls to be in a relationship with, or whether you are ready for a relationship. The hardest thing I had to do was to turn down a super hot blonde girl, because there were minor things that I did not like about her. I decided I could settle, like my last LTR, or not. If I did, I would lose my momentum in learning game, and be in a relationship that perhaps was doomed to fail from the beginning (because I already felt like I was settling).

Knowing this, the biggest mistake a newbie makes is settling for the first “decent looking” girl he meets. These relationship are always doomed to fail, but perhaps in being in them we learn our lesson: the consequences of settling. As a guy in the game, you can take your pic, and with your skills always improving, to choose the right girl for you, and give it a go. After all, falling in love with the right person can be one of the most rewarding things in life.

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