Do your emotions control you, or do you control your emotions?
Our emotions are hardwired into place for our benefit, mostly. Natural selection has secured humans to respond quickly and drastically to physical and emotional pain and seek comfort and safety. This has helped us survive for thousands of years.
The same emotions that allow us to sit on a couch and watch TV because we are comfortable is also the same emotion that helped our ancestors survive when they were in a resource rich territory.
Some people let emotions run their lives – the react to certain events. They react to other people’s emotions and actions, they get carried away. They are forever in a reactive mode.
Strong people tend to have control over stimulus and chosen response. That is, they recognize that certain things cannot be within their circle of influence. However, they can always control how they respond to the circumstance. As such, they are no longer an instrument of their emotions. Rather, they become masters of their own feelings of happiness and contentment. Read more
Do Not Shine Your Light Where It Is Not Welcomed
I am feeling strong mixed emotions right now and am compelled to write this post. Perhaps it will be a rambling of sorts however in deciphering this rambling for myself I believe that within this lies very important lessons in game and life.
Looks Matter. Here’s How
I think the whole idea that looks don’t matter for guys is complete bullshit. There. I said it.
Your looks matter, a lot.
I am a deep guy. I am above average good looking. Like, a 7 or 8. However, I am (not yet) model looking. I am ashamed to say this, but I have slept with girls who only liked me for my looks, and I have seen other guys sleep with girls with boyfriends primarily based on their looks alone. I have seen girls choose guys over looks.
Scientifically, it has been proven (The Survival Of The Prettiest) that women will sleep with men who appear to have dominant traits during ovulation and more passive traits when raising a child. Obviously, from these casual sex sessions, girls will start to develop more intimate relationships with these “alpha” guys.
That is just a fact of life, whether you have different internal values or not, the dating game skews in this direction on a macro level. To change the game would require a cultural and perhaps biological change. Read more
July 2012 Income Report
Net Income: About $2150 – 700 = $1450
AlphaCasual Productions: $2000
Expenses for ACP: 200
Expenses for Honeyplex: 500 (AdWords, outsourcing design and back-end product stuff)
1. Haste makes waste.
2. Take the time to learn the skills you need.
3. Don’t work TOO hard. When you hit something hard over and over again, take a break and come back to it. Your subconscious mind will work on solving the problem. Remember when you are young and you were playing a video game and you didn’t know how to solve a particular problem? You would sleep on it and eventually your mind figures out a way to solve it and you can’t wait to play the game and and try the new theory? This is what happens when you are devoted to what you do.
4. Change your story – don’t make your job an obstacle – use it as a tool to build discipline.
5. When lost, focus on the end user and all else will follow (Larry Page)
How to Deal with Envy and Jealousy (The Green Eyed Monster)
I want to take a moment and talk about the element of jealousy in game and finances because it is an important part of human nature and if left untamed, can garnish many of your most finest moments. It is a natural human feeling. We have all felt it at one point or another, as kids or even as adults. Have you had a sibling come into the family, and you felt jealous that your mother’s time was not divided between 2 or more kids? Jealousy can have its uses in human psychology, however, like anything else, when taken too far. The Greek mythology describes envy and jealous as the green on eyed serpent that can strike you at any time.
Jealousy vs. Envy
Jealousy is a natural biological response to the fear of losing something, usually an emotional connection to someone else. Love is naturally jealous, if you love someone, you will be jealous if they give their love to another. Jealousy can be useful in providing the correct emotional response to a lover who may have strayed, or is thinking of straying. Jealousy can be unconscious. For example, many stories, including my own, have exemplified a feeling of a fear of loss or caring of someone at a particular moment. Perhaps a girlfriend calling her boyfriend when suddenly she just becomes very worried for no apparent logical reason. Often times the girlfriend or boyfriend is seeing someone else. Jealousy therefore has its place in relationships.
Insecure individuals bask in jealousy, as their fear of loss if often accompanied by unjustified jealousy over a loved one, or over protection. These feelings usually originate from childhood days, although life experiences can drastically alter feelings of jealousy. People that are jealous usually are afraid of losing out on an opportunity, or fearing the loss of something they may already have.
Katt Williams on Haters:
Single Male to Female Ratio in the US
I have been exploring the issue of single male and female ratios and how it affects dating situations in different geographic areas. It turns out that there is a variety of data sources and not all of them share the same conclusions. There are, however, some overarching patterns. In this post, I will explore the data source and implied conclusions from sex ratio data that are available publicly.
1. The US Census bureau is required to do these data aggregations every 10 years. The last one was done in 2000, and a comparison of that to 2010 data is quite revealing.