Shout Out to RSD
Watching RSD’s latest videos, and THEN going out, has helped me improve my game a lot. I’m getting consistent results now getting girls full closing. Still working on 9s and 10s.
For the LONGEST time – I always felt I’m “losing value! no!!” whenever I get rejected / interaction doesn’t go well. It was draining and takes the wind out of me. Harsh rejections make me make up my own excuses : fuck this focus on making money / fuck cold approach social circle is better… you guys know the deal.
I think I finally figured it out:
1. You go out, you put your real self out there
2. You control your own energy in a charismatic and empowering vibe
3. You see things realistically, recognize mistakes quickly, and correct them don’t dwell, just realize. Don’t amplify rejection or mistakes
4. See mistakes and rejection as they are – randomness. Have a laugh at extreme negative emotions of other people. If patterns occur, notice the patterns and calibrate and correct
5. Accept that you have no control over other people’s feelings. You can only control your cool vibe, add value to any environment, and let the chips fall where they may
Tyler on Intermediate pick up insights:
Fallacies of the Seduction Community #2: Alpha Status and Likeability are Inversely Related
Problem: PUAs are afraid of looking “beta” or less “alpha” by appearing to be too friendly. PUAs act more alpha because they think that is what they are supposed to do to DHV and get higher value, in turn to get the girl and show off to other PUAs.
- Newbies look nervous, never smile, trying to be cool
- Keeps assessing what other people think of him, instead of what he thinks about himself and the situation
- Always worried about losing value
- Acting or relating to impress, instead to express
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Fallacies of the Seduction Community #1: Openers are a big deal
Problem: PUAs don’t know how to open, mis-calibrate on the open, or think too much about it.
A PUA goes up to a set, walking in a clunky way. He stops awkwardly, and then suddenly, his face animates up and his voice blasts out, “Hey guys! Can I get a quick opinion on something!?!”
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Do your emotions control you, or do you control your emotions?
Our emotions are hardwired into place for our benefit, mostly. Natural selection has secured humans to respond quickly and drastically to physical and emotional pain and seek comfort and safety. This has helped us survive for thousands of years.
The same emotions that allow us to sit on a couch and watch TV because we are comfortable is also the same emotion that helped our ancestors survive when they were in a resource rich territory.
Some people let emotions run their lives – the react to certain events. They react to other people’s emotions and actions, they get carried away. They are forever in a reactive mode.
Strong people tend to have control over stimulus and chosen response. That is, they recognize that certain things cannot be within their circle of influence. However, they can always control how they respond to the circumstance. As such, they are no longer an instrument of their emotions. Rather, they become masters of their own feelings of happiness and contentment. Read more
Do Not Shine Your Light Where It Is Not Welcomed
I am feeling strong mixed emotions right now and am compelled to write this post. Perhaps it will be a rambling of sorts however in deciphering this rambling for myself I believe that within this lies very important lessons in game and life.
Looks Matter. Here’s How
I think the whole idea that looks don’t matter for guys is complete bullshit. There. I said it.
Your looks matter, a lot.
I am a deep guy. I am above average good looking. Like, a 7 or 8. However, I am (not yet) model looking. I am ashamed to say this, but I have slept with girls who only liked me for my looks, and I have seen other guys sleep with girls with boyfriends primarily based on their looks alone. I have seen girls choose guys over looks.
Scientifically, it has been proven (The Survival Of The Prettiest) that women will sleep with men who appear to have dominant traits during ovulation and more passive traits when raising a child. Obviously, from these casual sex sessions, girls will start to develop more intimate relationships with these “alpha” guys.
That is just a fact of life, whether you have different internal values or not, the dating game skews in this direction on a macro level. To change the game would require a cultural and perhaps biological change. Read more