Lessons Learned – Improve Your Pick Up Skills

Lesson 1. When people are stressed out, they behave in a very strange way. And they don’t realize it. When I came back from San Diego, I realize how stressed a person was from working all the time in Silicon Valley. They argued about things that don’t matter, simply for the sake of their own egos. Perhaps people that are working overtime need something to make themselves feel important, because they’re not living their lives that they want. In order to communicate clearly with these people, you must first understand them, listen, and connect with them in a way that doesn’t trigger the auto stressed responses.

Lesson 2. Being relaxed and free, usually lets out your “best self”. You’re in a relaxed state. I felt very confident and very calm at the same time. This is a great state to be in and to meet new people. This feeling you have that makes you think you can take on the world. Americans work hard. In doing so, we lose sight of what’s really important. The number of people I can quote from work that truly don’t listen, and push their own agendas, stacked up in the hundreds. And those are only people that I have met in my own career. Therefore, a man who is calm, unrushed, take the time to talk and listen, can create value to the corporations. Such a man is highly valued and will likely secure a position that rewards him as such.

Lesson 3. Interaction. Not good looks. Not money. Not even fame. Dress and control your own demeanor to inspire a more frequent and deeper level of interaction with other people, and this will drastically improve your success in a particular venue. For example, I remember a girl who dressed up as little red for Halloween and she was giving away a basket of lollipops. The guy stands in the middle of the road with a sign that says “free hugs“. The girl in the quirky dress and a necklace that says “drink me”. these people may not be the best looking for the most successful and life. But, and added that they own it because it would interact with the most people. The next time you go out to think about this for your style choices and your clothing attire.

Chelsea Korka with a necklace that's sure to get tons of attention

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Last night I met up with another PUA who was visiting from Texas in San Diego. So much easier with a wing. Nonetheless. We hit up Pacific Beach. First stop by Typhoon Saloon. Yep. Fuji was right. Tons of blondes. This bar reminded me a lot of Old Pro back in Palo Alto – big strapping frat guys and skinny blondes. Natural counterparts.

We were getting to know each other and a girl comes up and approaches us. I wasn’t sure why but she was perky and my new Texas friend starts reading her aura. She’s fun and then jumps away as soon as she came. I wasn’t sure what’s up with that – never seen it before. I think she was looking for us to buy her a drink and when she realized we weren’t going to because we weren’t chodes, she left!

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I took a week off for vacation this week and decided to drive to San Diego for a week. I’ve always thought about San Diego, and the last time I was here almost 4 years ago, we were stuck on Coranado Island and “Googler” events. Which was great, but I am pretty sure no one got laid.

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AKA “How To Deal With Annoying People”

If you are reading this post, chances are you are feeling a little bad about yourself due to a recent event with a girl. That, or you’re an avid reader of pick up and dating blogs which is cool too.

I want to help you address the issue of dealing with bitches in the field, but before doing so with tactical advice, let’s take a look at the real issue at hand.

First of all, this issue does not pertain to bitches alone. They pertain to other people who annoy you, or are otherwise negatively associating with you socially. To this extent, you have to learn to deal with Social Conflict (future definition for PUA Lingo). Social conflict resolution applies to every aspect of your life. Marriages, how to deal with your coworkers, how to behave in school, and how to deal with bullies and strangers who are antagonistic towards you.

First, remember that people who are angry tend to have a reason for being so. And, a bitch is being a bitch for a reason. Where there is anger, there is usually a root of source of it. Have you ever had a bad day where nothing was going well? Or a string of events that is happening to you and, before you know it, you unconsciously start taking it out on other people. Maybe it was the cashier, or the waitress, or a customer you happen to talk to. You realize you were angry about it later on, and you felt bad about treating the other person that way. But what’s done is done, and as humans we make mistakes

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Today I learned the value of strategic versus tactical feedback. I was out with a wing, Sexual Twinkie. For those of you who don’t know him, this kid is newly 21 and isn’t afraid to approach at all. In fact, he AMOGGed 3 really big, good looking black guys today for two blondes and won out!

His dance game is also solid and very tight. As I was giving him some feedback I realized that what I was saying wasn’t sinking in. “You’re opening is great, but you lose the girl because your whole vibe is not authentic enough.”

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