Haven’t been out in a while (over 2 months) and this weekend was my first night out in a while. It was interesting. Despite my height there are just some girls who are into you and others who are not. Lesson #1 for cold approach pick up = you cannot control how people respond to you.
Some girls like my height. Others don’t.
Some girls like buff guys. Others don’t.
Some girls like white military guys. Others don’t.
Some girls are horny tonight. Others are not.
Some girls just don’t like Asian/Black/Minority guys. Some girls do.
This is in direct contrast to being a director of a set, or a model on a set. As a model you are treated very well by most people. You have a lot assigned social value automatically. As a CEO running your business, people listen to you and obey your instructions. The random drunk hottie at a bar has no idea who you are, and she’s not likely to respond or give you value until you talk to her and project energy.
Now, there are situations where you are the bar manager, or pay for a table and girls will come up and say hi, but that usually requires money, connections in nightlife, or owning a club.
My point is that you can be the best looking, tall white dude in the world, and you will STILL get rejected. Cold approach pick up is a numbers game, and often times, even with stellar skills, you need to filter DTF girls to pull that night. It is really hard to have a genuine, deep conversation in a club. When I have, none of the girls returned my calls.
Cold approach requires a different mindset or adaptability, and open thoughts. There is no other way. In a way, it is very liberating. You’re hunting in the jungle, and it is survival of the fittest / smoothest. There are no rules, and no social boundaries. Free for all sexual value being traded. No regular social constraints.
Perhaps Owen was right. Keep it light, high energy, and positive energy. Push and pull. The girl will gravitate towards you. I need to polish up my push/pull game, because while at the modeling set girls will auto-assume I’m high value, proper push/pull is the the natural attraction trigger with women in general.
A gentle, light-hearted conversation and chill vibe, adapted to suit the energy of the environment.
On another note, when you are cold approaching a girl sometimes she has more “power” in a social situation. You can always tell people’s true character when you give them a little power and see how they behave. Give a guy a million dollars (lottery), or give him girls, and see how he acts around you when you’re not “watching”.
Me: “Sorry professor, I know I am always late, I’ll work on it”
Professor: “I don’t care about that (being late for class). You have a gift. Your thinking, the way you view business. Don’t waste it”
-Professor Jeanette asked me to stay after class one day. I thought I was in trouble.
“But…. but … you’re AlphaWolf!?”
-Fellow PUA who looked up to me, during a night where I was felling down and could not approach a hottie
“What is it like to be tall and good looking?”
-Fellow friend from SF asked me, on a day I was feeling ugly.
“You’re one of the smartest people I have ever met”
-Anonymous Friend of a Friend
“Do you want to come in my mouth?”
-One of the most physically beautiful girl I’ve ever met
“There is nothing a teacher can teach you that you don’t already know deep within. All a good teacher does is to remove the debris that sometimes covers the ultimate truth”
-A passage from Ekhart Tolle
“That was a really good walk. I was waiting out back and then as you get on stage I was like ‘oh wow there he goes’”
-Cecilia Aragon, feedback to me after a runway show after walking her design line
“You’re tall, and you have good frame. What a waste, for someone like you not to workout”
-A frenemy from highschool who sided with my bullies, but always tried to discretely help me out. I have conflicting feelings about him. On one hand he could have just sided with me in full. But he sided with my enemies, and would make fun of me sometimes and help me sometimes. Deep inside, he admired my dad and perhaps that filtered onto me a bit. Truth is, he didn’t have to help me at all, and he was also seeking his own form of social acceptance and it was harder with me around. I always remembered this one advice he gave me though.
“That’s it. I’ve done it. I’ve arrived.”
That’s what we used to think. In high-school I wanted to be older. In college, I wanted to get a cool job so I could get girls. At my first real job, I wanted to to “make it” and become an awesome employee. At Google, I wanted to be “awesome and Googley”. There’s always something else to aim for before we find happiness.
I think the human mind, and perhaps to a degree the media draw up this fantasy of the “get this and you will be happy” mentality. When in fact, the very idea of doing what you love is the fantasy itself. Coach Wooden saw this in his life (UCLA legend). Donald Trump also expressed the same sentiments in his book “How to Think Like A Billionaire”.
The truth lies more in what Ekhart Tolle called “being in the present moment” and enjoying the process itself. I think coach John Wooden really understood this. We are also the products of our parents. My mother, who is very pragmatic, and always knew how to save money. And my dad, who wasn’t afraid to go after what he wanted. He taught me many a great deal about how to be diplomatic and kind to people, and how to be a man. I think one of the reasons my brother and I turned out to very rarely lie is because my dad rarely lied about anything. And that’s tough given his profession as a diplomat.
Owen and Julien talk about being the wolf, and how It is never “complete”.
The other thing I learned recently is that I feel free. I understand now what it takes to generate “wealth”, and I will never be poor again because I am mentally prepared to generate value in a capitalistic world. Despite his ego and public persona, Trump shares an insight he has learned about wealth: Read more
Decisions are the key to living a purposeful life. I learned this from reading Tony Robbin’s “Awaken the Giant Within“, a book that I reviewed a long time ago but forgot many of the obvious and yet extremely important principles.
Decision #1: My future is in San Diego, at least for the next year 2014 to 2015. I’ve decided this to be the case. However, I don’t wan to keep the apartment the rent + furniture rentals are too high for my needs. I’ve always lived a low cost lifestyle so I can leverage my savings, and I will continue to do so. Perhaps come April, a few months beforehand I start scouting houses. A nice place near a campus or downtown could ensure good female roommates.
Decision #2: I don’t want to spend 100% of my time in front of a computer, and I do want to work and be in a somewhat “competitive” environment in order to grow stronger. I will continue my online ventures but plan accordingly. Starting 1/1/2014, I will take on a bartender or retail job here in San Diego.
Decision #3: I want a 9 or 10. I want to sleep with them consistently. Whether this will make me happy or not I don’t know, but I need to pursue this goal in order to find the answers for myself. To this extent, I must also be a 9/10 in their eyes, physically, mentally, and spiritually. I want to hold myself to a higher standard of being. While the 9 or 10 is physical for me at the moment, my ultimate desire is to find a 9 or 10 physical looks and inner beauty. I am dead set on this, and I will do everything I can to achieve this. I have bled to become a 9 or 10 myself, and now I will continue to evolve with the strength of my body and bulk up.
Decision #4: I wanted to run an agency, but a modeling agency is most likely to succeed in LA. However, in San Diego, Push Models is here and there are many promotional events (conference, Comic Con). I wanted to run an agency that recognizes a girl’s talent and is able to immerse my business skills with hot girls. The end goal for me = HOT GIRLS + COOL PROFITABLE BUSINESS. I have decided that I don’t need to move to LA to make this happen. I like living in San Diego.
Goal: 178lbs without food weight
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Phase 2, medium weight, perfect form
5 minute running at 6.0 speed
Monday:Chest and Biceps
Bench press incline x 10 x 3
Bicep curl x10 x 3
Bench press x 10 x 3
Another bicep exercise (alternate) x10 x 3
Push ups x 10 x 3
Tuesday: Back and Shoulders
Dead lift x 10 x 3
Shoulder exercise x 10 x 3
Pull down x 10 x 3
Shoulder extensions x 10 x 3
Back extension x 10 x 3
Shoulder lift x 10 x 3
Wednesday: Abs and yoga (stretching)
Sit ups x 30 x 3
Leg ups x 30 x 3
Yoga class x 1
Wed night basketball
Thursday: Legs and abs
Squat x 10 x 3
Sit ups x 20
Leg Extensions x 10 x 3
Cross extension sit ups x 30
Front leg extension x 10 x 3
Back leg extension x 10 x 3
Regular sit ups x 30
My game learning plan
Goal: follow Psych’s exact instructions.
- 4x a week FR
- at least 2 in field audio files
- at least 10 sets per outing
- Approach the hottest girls first unless you have a solid plan to get to her
- write all FRs 4x a week
My Honeyplex Web design plan
1) finish designs send to designer
2) programmer instructions for framework
3) design the layout and slogan
4) Write content for the site. Figure out what you want to say – we don’t take just any client, only the best, we choose to take you as a client, not the other way around
5) Fun spirited, creative, mobile, agile, adaptable
6) Client E-contract system
7) Re-occurring payment system (monthly)
8) User easy sign up or contact UI – need pricing models, and products they can “add on”. SEO, PPC, Design
Pending: Getting a job I like plan. I am going to hold off on this until 1/1/2014, or until I get the rest of these goals started and on-track
These goals are developed to help push me to the next level, and to have a consequence (negative) for not completing them. Furthermore, I will have the support of the guys in the mission in order to accomplish these.
1. Finish the Honeyplex website (www.honeyplex.com)
Consequence if not completed: $100
2. Immerse in 1 on 1 training with DJ Fuji
- Write and analyze all texts to improve text game (all TEXTS with girls I’m interested in dating)
- Record in field x2 /week
- Download App and record and analyze all calls with girls for Android phone
Consequence if not completed: $300
3. Get to 175 lbs without any food in my stomach, muscle mass only.
This will require me to go from 168 to 175 weight and a rigorous diet and training regimen
Consequence if not completed: $100