Gauntlet Day 23-25

August 29, 2013 by  
Filed under Learn about Pickup, My Personal Life

Scott is in Hawaii, called him last night and chatted for next steps.

Lesson 1: when alone in field don’t respond and give single strangers power to define your state. You’re going to have great sets and bad sets, some people will love you, others will not like you. Same in salsa scene, unless you have social proof with friends.

Lesson 2: When done correctly, a lot can happen very quickly. You just have to find the right formula. Traditional thinking believes that

  1. you need time to heal
  2. take time to make friends

The truth is, there are behavioral techniques that can accelerate your results in all areas. Take a look at Tony Robbin’s breakthrough series, I thought those were great at identifying what needs to change in each person’s life and their scenario.

Lesson 3: Need fun added into work. I am not looking to change the world, despite my admiration for Steve Jobs and Woz. My goal is happiness on all levels – this require a strong path of work and also sharing what I can with my friends and family and lover.

Having fun in between tough working sessions feels right. Sitting in front of a computer a lot and working a lot does not feel right. Need breaks of fun time.

Gauntlet Day 22

August 26, 2013 by  
Filed under My Personal Life

Today I went to the gym, spent all day cooking and doing calls and responding to emails. I got a bit lost in the clutter and only now at 9pm am I sitting down and writing my ebook.

Gauntlet Day 15-21

August 25, 2013 by  
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The last week has been cray.

I quit my job. Well, I gave notice to quit starting 1/1/2014. There’s no going back on this one. So my job now is the cut costs where possible, and spend money on 1-2 key projects that I know will pay off. All the BS is gone, and now it is clear precision and focus.

This is a good time too since I am still in love with my Ex, and channeling my energy into my work helps me focus and forget about her. I am also not in the mood to be intimate with other girls.

I also got to volunteer for fashion week San Diego, which I believe will be an awesome event.

Gauntlet Day 14

August 19, 2013 by  
Filed under My Personal Life

Today I:

  1. Wrote my Ex Girlfriend. I had to. She tells me she misses me but is doing well. I’m glad we can still communicate but be apart and deal with the new phase of life.
  2. Finished a ton of things for my real job

Ongoing Goals:

  1. 30 min a Day work on ebook.  For every day missed $20. Revised to 30 min a day, or at least 3.5 hours a week (can stack) – Still have to finish this book in 4 weeks.
  2. Exercise.  Workout 4x a week, 60 minute sessions.  $20 for each day missed. 2x this week, 2 more needed by Sunday. I got all 4 days last week!
  3. Daily Check-In.  Check in with buddy via call or text regarding daily and weekly actions.  $5 for each day missed. Done

Projects:

  1. Write a Letter to Admired CEO of an Agency.  Must be done before 11:59pm September 3rd, if not $100. DONE sent in mail today. Wrote a second letter with advice on how to improve their online presence, this is the last one I will send.
  2. Pay It Forward.  Take out a guy or two and show them pick up skills.  2x.  $20 for each missed.Scheduled.
  3. Profile of your Ideal Woman.  Post to The Gauntlet Facebook page the profile of your ideal woman.  Done no later than 11:59pm August 10th.  $50 if not completed. DONE
  4. Choose Target Locations.  After profiling ideal woman, choose 2 events where she would typically be.  Done after profile, due date August 18th.  $20 for non-completion. Done. Museum (tomorrow). Model show coming up Sat. Then SD Fashion Show. 90% now is SHOWING UP.
  5. Brother Brunch.  Choose 4 men from current Gauntlet class and grab lunch.  Talk about life.  Bond.  $25 for each man not completed with. Tentative, 1 on Sat. Invite more after this week. 4 out of 4 completed with Gabriel and Jesse. Just realized I had lunch with Alex and Aaron too on Sunday, so that’s 4! I will shoot for 1 more this weekend. Completed with a few guys I took out this Sunday x4 for daygaming, had lunch with Ron from The Mission.
  6. Asian Interviews.  Interview 4 asian pick up artists in two months.  $50 for every interview not completed. Need to do this. Need to send out invites, have a list of 11. I have 2 completed, DJ Fuji this weekend, and Kong is writing me an email. Need 1 more full interview. 3/4

Gauntlet Day 13

August 18, 2013 by  
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Went out with some guys during day game, met my Brother lunch goal of 4 people.

Night game with Alex. Lots of learning

  1. Night game is like a fast paced video game with tons of traps and bonuses. If you do well you can go home with a girl or feel like a king in a club. If you do badly you can go home with your ego bruised or worse get into a fight. Basically it is a stream of compacted, intense social situations either you calibrate well and win or you lose.
  2. No one can win all night game social battles even if you are a master PUA and perfectly calibrated, you will not be able to know 100% of what someone (a stranger) is thinking. You can only cold read, guess, and make the least costly mistake.
  3. Night game has several strategies:
    • Obviously, calibration is best, but one can take a more bold approach – more AMOGS, because guys can get defensive, harsher blow outs, but more reward if the girl likes you she will go home with you.
    • You can take a more calm gentleman approach, will still get blown out but you calibrate better. Get into less fights, more guy friends, more casual. You probably won’t go home with a girl unless you are pushing it a bit more, or you meet a classy girl and talk to her for a long period of time.
    • Slutty, more “club” girls will respond to caveman-like tactics – they want guys to fight over them, and in a downtown club environment this can get viscous and there’s a lot of social pressure. The girls do this to see how the guy responds under intense social pressure and they get off on going home with the winner of that battle. Unconsciously they are turned on by it.
    • Unfortunately the clubby hot girls who dress like sluts and are usually the hottest are the ones that pull this type of behavior – they want the superficial drama and they feed on it.
    • Classy girls do too, but they respond more to a more gentle fight like two guys in a suit competing with their wit. As opposed to buff military guys fighting it out or pushing each other on the street.
    • You NEVER know how someone is going to respond. It is completely ARBITRARY. Some guys are SUPER cool and befriend me. Others who look “nice” or “handsome” are racist, or hate you. You just never know. Super good looking girls (and guys) respond differently depending on who they are INSIDE. You just don’t know. Some clues can be gleamed by their appearance, clothing choice, and how they interact with friends or others in the club. But in general, don’t judge a book by its cover.
    • Toward the end of the night, girls are a lot more guarded and can be bitchy. Lots of guys hitting on them. Its a type of “free for all” mating fight. It gets dirty, confrontational, and only the strong win. In a way I think it is low class, although in some ways it is just a amplification of human behavior at its most superficial level. The club environment enhances this. Humans have always night bars, nightclubs, places with alcohol and where debauchery can take place.
    • Even a classy girl is prone to being attracted by her environment, and I have seen classy girls go home with “questionable characters”. Sometimes that character is me. In general though, sex alone is not the end all be all, how she handles her relationships reveals a lot about who she is. Most girls will not date guys who are “club kings” because they’re just not good long term material. That said, she may go home with him, much like we have to “hot ass stripper / girl fantasy”. Alex and I were discussing how HOT blondes are SO Stupid when we talk to them (some, not all blondes, the ones that dress up for clubs and put lots of makeup on) and yet, guys still want to go home with them.
    • Overall I think the club is a good “social cage” to fight and hone your skills – it is a high stakes game. That being said, it is NOT a good place to build friendship, or nurture the deeper meanings of relationships. Because it enhances and focuses on the superficial things. A friend once said, “I feel like I am in a casino”. Think about it for a second:
      • Alcohol is used to numb the senses and create a false sense of happiness that is unsustainable
      • Girls are paraded around to be judged on their hotness and looks and sluttiness
      • Social value is based on “which guy is the coolest” or “which girl is the hottest”
      • Who has the most money to pay for drinks / tables
      • People smoke / second hand smoke reduces your longevity
      • Most people spend lots of money going out
    • In all honestly, I am conflicted. I want to master club game and this is the arena to drastically improve my “seduction skills”. At the same time, I feel like I already have the skills to meet the woman I want, and the woman I want to marry is not going to the clubs every night. Once in a while I may catch her there with her friends, but she’s not a regular.
    • My Ex GF’s influence on me was strong and I miss her dearly. Everyday. Will I go back to being a player, or seek out a good girl that I an have a deep, fulfilling relationship with?
    • Despite the joys of night game / club game, now that I know who I really am as a young man, I will never go back to becoming the guy I was pretending to be.

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