Over the last year I have tried to adapt to San Diego’s distinct style and demographics. The guys here are lot more socially calibrated than San Francisco (the straight ones, at least). So what’s a guy to do if he’s not super muscular or fits the “hot douchebag / athlete” archetype?
First, if you are the muscular type, by all means, show it off. I see a lot of guys in tank tops on the beach
Just also muscle dudes with interesting colored shorts:
3 quick insights after today’s fashion show before I goto sleep / work on my next project.
1. You can tell a lot by the way a girl walks, at least at the local modeling level. Her skill level, her poise. Does she think she’s hot? Is she nervous? Is she stiff and letting the pressure get to her? Can she own a room and appreciate its beauty? Can she appreciate her own beauty, or does she just take it for granted? All of this is in her body language.
2. Don’t judge someone by their “cover”, but rather, their actions and their trajectory of growth. My dad talked to me about an important concept of “metamorphisis” before he went back to Taiwan. He discussed the idea of constantly changing and evolving.
3. I feel a bit socially isolated but the truth is, I can’t wait to be back home and working on my project. There will be time for advancement on our social circle and girls later. We will come full circle.
Part of my current reading includes the biography of people I admire or would like to learn more about. Among them is Bruce Hulse, one of the most successful and foremost male supermodels of our time. His book, Sex, Love, And Fashion definitely opened my eyes to the possibilities and pitfalls of the fashion industry.
A few pages captured my memories and I will share them with you here.
On Doc X, his best friend and mentor:
He and I used to laugh at the stressed-out businessmen arriving with their families on the weekends, thanking God we weren’t one of them. We never wanted anything to do with that lifestyle.
Advice on working female models and getting repeat work: Read more
Fallacies of the Seduction Community #6: If I improve with women, my friends will think I’m awesome!
Fallacy: If I improve with women, my friends will think I’m awesome!
Actually, for a short time, your friends will think you’re awesome. They may at first consider you weird, if you don’t go ALL OUT. However, you may start seeing success after a while, and your friends may offer congratulations.
Consistent improvement, however, and life changing behavior patterns, will put distance between you and your friends. After all, your views of the world and limiting beliefs are different. Oprah once said that when she lost weight she also fought with her larger friends – because her losing weight reminded them of their own weight still being high.
Here’s Tyler on why your friends may not find learning about pick up as awesome as you do:
People’s real behavior is observed in their real choices, and these real truths are sometimes hidden from the public. Learn to read through the social fabric. My coach once told me: think of the journey as you traveling along the desert. Occasionally a friend will come and walk the path with you, however in the beginning and the end, you are always alone. Accept this fact, and take responsibility for your independence.
The game “Journey”, critically acclaimed (commercial decent) game is a good reflection of most people’s personal journey in life: