Mystery’s Winging Rules

Here are Mystery’s rules on winging.

1. He who opens the set, owns the set. He gets first choice of target.

2. The primary purpose of the wing is to help the player get his target. If the wing can game his own target, fine, but that is not his primary purpose.

3. Don’t ever steal the target. Many times the player will be ignoring or negging the target, never use this time to step in and steal her. Never.

4. The wing should occupy the obstacles so that the player gets more one on one time with target.

5. Always agree with your wing. Never take the girls side over him. He is always right.

6. Your wing is a great cool guy. That is why you hang out with him. After all you have standards.

7.Your wings feelings are important to you. Even more important than the girls feelings. When he approaches the set, turn and face him. If you disrespect your wing, it will lower your value to the girls. Never leave him standing there without acknowledging or introducing him.

To quote a good friend Stone: “I am no longer the bank robber. I am the fucking bank. People come to me and no longer do I feel the need to get something from someone else.”. Embody this mentality, and in a strange paradoxical way more will flow towards you.

“Let’s just be friends” – no, really!

I never really understood why some of my friends, in the past, have gotten angry or distant from me when I started gaming their friends. Questions like, “are your friends cute?” seem harmless, but they pack a certain punch if that is what you are asking a girl when she is inviting you out with her friends.

The realization came when Serum started gaming my roommate like it was another target. I realized immediately the pure inequality in the equation.

Roommate Friend = 6.5HB Asian girl
Serum = PUA
Risk of alienating me if relationship becomes more than friends: High
Risk of relationship not working out and being weird: High
Potential conflict of “whose house guest is this?”: Medium
Reward for full closing a HB6.5 Asian girl: relatively low
Weirdness of Serum sleeping in his old room overnight with roommate: High
Risk of jealously from best friend (Me) while gaming roommate: High

And to be honest, when I thought about this I just got really angry. Why risk a good friendship over a mediocre 6.5? IF she was a SHB10 Blonde, sure, got for it, I would be gaming her too but this is a case where the rewards do not justify the means.

Thinking more on this, I realized that most of my female friends (and I only have a few, as I do not easily make female friends and maintain relationships consciously) I introduce Serum to, he has somehow gamed. By gamed I mean, actively pursued 1 on 1 date like activities and attraction building (on purpose /i.e. consciously). And it is this feeling that I have that, when you have a PUA friend, they tend to game any other friend like a “target” that really pissed me off. This anger also made me realize what my other friends must think of me when I think of every girl as a potential target.

This event has made me realize that I don’t want to be that guy who is labeled “a player” and games every girl he sees. This is a DLV both in my co-worker circle as well as in other social circles. I want to be that cool guy that everyone meets, that the girls fall for over time without even thinking about it because of my charisma. And I want to be a man who appreciates his friends, and just because I have pick up skills, it does not mean I have to use them all the time. Having the mastery means having a choice: the choice between respecting friendships and sexual relationships, and being able to convey both and calibrate depending on the timing and circumstances.