Position of Power vs. Cold Approach Pickup

May 26, 2014 by  
Filed under My Personal Life

Haven’t been out in a while (over 2 months) and this weekend was my first night out in a while. It was interesting. Despite my height there are just some girls who are into you and others who are not. Lesson #1 for cold approach pick up = you cannot control how people respond to you.

Some girls like my height. Others don’t.

Some girls like buff guys. Others don’t.

Some girls like white military guys. Others don’t.

Some girls are horny tonight. Others are not.

Some girls just don’t like Asian/Black/Minority guys. Some girls do.

This is in direct contrast to being a director of a set, or a model on a set. As a model you are treated very well by most people. You have a lot assigned social value automatically. As a CEO running your business, people listen to you and obey your instructions. The random drunk hottie at a bar has no idea who you are, and she’s not likely to respond or give you value until you talk to her and project energy.

Now, there are situations where you are the bar manager, or pay for a table and girls will come up and say hi, but that usually requires money, connections in nightlife, or owning a club.

My point is that you can be the best looking, tall white dude in the world, and you will STILL get rejected. Cold approach pick up is a numbers game, and often times, even with stellar skills, you need to filter DTF girls to pull that night. It is really hard to have a genuine, deep conversation in a club. When I have, none of the girls returned my calls.

Cold approach requires a different mindset or adaptability, and open thoughts. There is no other way. In a way, it is very liberating. You’re hunting in the jungle, and it is survival of the fittest / smoothest. There are no rules, and no social boundaries. Free for all sexual value being traded. No regular social constraints.

Perhaps Owen was right. Keep it light, high energy, and positive energy. Push and pull. The girl will gravitate towards you. I need to polish up my push/pull game, because while at the modeling set girls will auto-assume I’m high value, proper push/pull is the the natural attraction trigger with women in general.

A gentle, light-hearted conversation and chill vibe, adapted to suit the energy of the environment.

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On another note, when you are cold approaching a girl sometimes she has more “power” in a social situation. You can always tell people’s true character when you give them a little power and see how they behave. Give a guy a million dollars (lottery), or give him girls, and see how he acts around you when you’re not “watching”.

Club Game: Energy

February 5, 2012 by  
Filed under God Of Style Handbook

I learned something new about club game tonight. Your energy has everything to do with your success in a loud club setting. Every club has their own “frequency”.

Without dialing into this frequency, you cannot effectively communicate with the people, usually the majority, that are dialed into the club’s frequency channel. So the idea is to figure out a way to get your energy level usually up to match the clubs atmosphere. You can do this in a variety of different ways:

First you can naturally train yourself whenever you walk into a club to start feeling the vibe and get excited about going inside. Remember when you were a kid and you are about to go on the playground to play? This should be the same type of feeling that you get as you walk into the club. Naturally, this takes some time and anchoring helps in the process. The more you do it in the more you condition yourself to associate positive feelings of fun and playfulness to this type of environment, the easier it will be over time.

Anchoring Positive Feelings when you “Hate” Clubs

Now, let’s assume that you hate clubs. As a matter of fact, I kind of hate clubs also. It’s loud, it’s noisy, people are smoking, I don’t really enjoy drinking alcohol, and I hate, HATE facing rejection. However there is one thing the club has that I do very much enjoy perhaps above all else. Hot girls.

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