What Is You Gift?

June 20, 2011 by  
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What is Your Gift?

One of the key business lessons I learned was to focus on your strengths, and try to neutralize your weaknesses in the most efficient way possible. Spending life worrying about what you’re not good at is just painful and not much fun.

Ironically, that’s what school teaches us to do. Raise your grades! Be good at everything. Stay quiet and behave. In the real business world, leaders are born from leveraging their strengths and being able to see the strengths in other team members.

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Instead, school puts social pressure on us to become best students. When I was in undergraduate business school, the best kids who started their own businesses didn’t have the highest GPAs. They maintained average Bs while they worked on their side businesses. A close friend of mine to this day, EH made and sold a website about student ringtones for $50,000 his junior year. His GPA was around 2.8 / 4.0.

So how to do find out what we are good at? Many management consultants have tried, and business books such as Strength Finder 2.0 and personality tests attempt to answer the question via large scale surveys and measurements. Read more

Chapter 1: Haven

June 22, 2010 by  
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Haven refers to “a place where ships may shelter from the weather or are stored”. Similairly in my life, college served as my own personal bubble and shelter from the world. Up until high school I had a pretty good life. Dad traveled a lot for his job, and we relocated from continent to continent with him whenever the time came. A side effect of this was that I went to college at a really young age. I remember dad driving me down to Natick mall late at night when we arrived in Boston, looking for a place to stay so we could continue our journey to college the day after. It wasn’t an easy road and I was glad that he came along with me, for I was only 16 and had no idea what to do.

The next day he left, and I was all alone. Although sad, I was also extremely excited. Finally! American College life! Let’s get this show going! The first year was great and we met a lot of cool people, but I had no real interest in girls. When I hit 17 and 18, that’s when things began to get frustrating as girls I meet will either become friends, or show no interest. It was almost as if I didn’t speak their language. Come Junior and Senior year, I was simply in denial and my ego prevented me from approaching and meeting new girls. There were 3 particular incidents I remember from college related to girls:

none of this happened at my school 😐

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