Social Kinetic Energy & The Roseto Mystery (From Outliers)

I was waiting at the pharmacy at the local market today and a thought struck me like a hard rock thrown at my head. The idea was “Social Kinetic Energy”. I define it as the level of interactivity between individuals within a community (usually a town, city, or family).

I believe that the more interactions a person makes with someone, the more likely they are to be happy. This is because they are in touch with the world, the society around them. For example, working at the Guess! retail store has forced me to become more social, and greet all the customer that come in. Whether or not I am having a bad day, the very role of my job in greeting people makes me more social, and more happy. Imagine yourself in your daily life. Are you someone who interacts with a lot of people during the day? Or do you feel alone as you go about your day? Are the guy who people come to at work to chat about life or ask for help? Don’t these people seem to hold more power at work too, even if their positions do not have as much authority? Even leaders are more open and more aware of what is going on when they interact with more people.

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Transition in work, life

Alpha, what have you been doing the last 2 weeks?

Alpha: Well. I was basically in a tough situation at work with 2 of my female managers. The situation lasted for about a month as I worked very hard to transition out of the group into a new team. For me, this was a difficult road. I learned a lot along the way. Read 48 laws of power and highlighted specific chapters. Basically, I was in a position of no power, and I had to play the game by other people’s rules and still come up on top.

When I received the offer from a fast growing group within the company, my new manager suddenly became very nice to me. I have heard and witnessed a lot of things about her, but in the end, we ended on a good note and I wrote her a final thank you note on the last day. I won’t bad mouth her here. People who are a certain way with people that create enough negative energy will craft their own demise, in time. And my mama taught me better than that

One of the other reasons I took a week off, after receiving my offer was that I needed a mental reset. I have hit a ceiling with my career, my life goals, and in general my pick up skills. I needed to re-frame my thinking. Today I read “The Answer”, and John Assaraf talks about why so many people fail – because the conscious mind is weak. It is short term. Long term habits and behavior is changed by concentrating and feeding your unconscious mind, where it is active 100% of the time and connects with Infinite Intelligence. Interesting.

I made 5 collages of pictures, photo shoots and pictures from magazines of the things I wanted in life, and they are hanging up on my bedroom wall right now. A lot of Victoria Secret models As well as guy models/actors/leaders I look up to: Barrack Obama, Jeremy Piven, and my mom and dad!

I feel happy. I feel free. My carefree attitude has translated into an awesome vibe and everyone I interacted with today, I think felt happier. It is a cool feeling. So this is what people who do not have to work fulltime to maintain a lifestyle feel like. This is what movie stars and Vincent Chase feels when they are not working

Life in the Matrix

Smile. Smile like you mean it. This person standing in front of you just betrayed you. Threw you under the bus execution style. But you must be nice to her. After all, she is a person of high value in your life. She has power over your survival value.

So Smile. Don’t fake it, because authenticity is important for those of us with less gifted acting talents. While you are genuine in seriously seeing the positive qualities of this person, the little noise inside your head gets a little louder. “What is that, you say?”

Id: “If you had the power to stand on your own, would you be being nice to his person?”
Me: “Of course not. I would hate them”
Id: “But you are being nice to them, because it is helpful to your survival value”
Me: “Yes.”
Id: “Is that what it means to be a ‘Professional’?”
Me: “I suppose. If you want to climb this particular ladder, which most people in this world are climbing along with you”
Id: “Is that what you want to do? Be nice to people at work so you can ascend up this ladder?”
Me: “No. I want to go beyond and rise above the poverty of the mind to serve those not worth serving”
Id: “But you need them for now”
Me: “Yes”
Id: “So you put in just enough effort to get by”
Me: “I don’t know”
Id: “You’re lying to yourself”
Me: “On my current trajectory and the way I am, (My inner core), I am unable to ascend to this level. Somethings has to change.
Id: “Something bad?”
Me: “Perhaps. Hopefully not. Hopefully there can be something motivating that triggers ambition”.
Id: “There is one thing…”
Me: “Yes. The emotion. Since I was a kid. Watching dad in the political side of the realm of this world”
Id: “Exactly. Channel that. Channel that anger and break free from these chains that bind you.”