Hugh Hefner’s Tipping Point

The following is from Mr. Hugh Hefner’s biography by Stephen Watts that inspired me to write this blog post. The story begins from his early days after he was married and living the conformist American life:

His various forays –the affair the bohemian apartments, the stag films, the risque parties– expressed a common desire to jettison the social conventions of postwar America.

“It was all part of the same thing. It was somehow trying to get out of that life,” he noted. “Somehow just not keep marching in lockstep to the abyss.”

Hefner’s discontent, ironically, came to a head in a moment of great joy. In December 1952, he and Jim Brophy wrote and directed the revue of stars a fund-raising variety show for the Steinmetz high school alumni Association. The old school chums serve as masters of ceremonies and perform several songs, the numbers, including a hilarious “Walking my baby back home” where Hefner serenaded Brophy, who was dressed as a woman. The crowd loved the show, and Hefner, showered with applause and laughter, was ecstatic.”

“The alumni show reinspired my faith in myself. It reminded me of a high school that’s what I truly believed I could do anything.”

This moment of euphoria quickly turned to ashes as the glow of success faded, the experience of the show only highlighted the angst that had been eveloped the rest of his life. He grew acutely despondent about his stalled career and his unhappy marriage, and the feelings almost overwhelmed him a few days later. Standing on a bridge over the Chicago River in the middle of a typically frigid winter, he looked out over the water and felt a desperate desire to recapture those warm feelings of high school life when he had been the esteemed leader of the gang, romance was in the air, and everything seemed possible.

“I stood on the bridge… and I felt as if my life was over. I put away all my dreams from childhood and I was miserable. But misery inspired decision as Hefner thought to himself, “I’ve gotta do something.”

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Transition in work, life

Alpha, what have you been doing the last 2 weeks?

Alpha: Well. I was basically in a tough situation at work with 2 of my female managers. The situation lasted for about a month as I worked very hard to transition out of the group into a new team. For me, this was a difficult road. I learned a lot along the way. Read 48 laws of power and highlighted specific chapters. Basically, I was in a position of no power, and I had to play the game by other people’s rules and still come up on top.

When I received the offer from a fast growing group within the company, my new manager suddenly became very nice to me. I have heard and witnessed a lot of things about her, but in the end, we ended on a good note and I wrote her a final thank you note on the last day. I won’t bad mouth her here. People who are a certain way with people that create enough negative energy will craft their own demise, in time. And my mama taught me better than that

One of the other reasons I took a week off, after receiving my offer was that I needed a mental reset. I have hit a ceiling with my career, my life goals, and in general my pick up skills. I needed to re-frame my thinking. Today I read “The Answer”, and John Assaraf talks about why so many people fail – because the conscious mind is weak. It is short term. Long term habits and behavior is changed by concentrating and feeding your unconscious mind, where it is active 100% of the time and connects with Infinite Intelligence. Interesting.

I made 5 collages of pictures, photo shoots and pictures from magazines of the things I wanted in life, and they are hanging up on my bedroom wall right now. A lot of Victoria Secret models As well as guy models/actors/leaders I look up to: Barrack Obama, Jeremy Piven, and my mom and dad!

I feel happy. I feel free. My carefree attitude has translated into an awesome vibe and everyone I interacted with today, I think felt happier. It is a cool feeling. So this is what people who do not have to work fulltime to maintain a lifestyle feel like. This is what movie stars and Vincent Chase feels when they are not working

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