Closeness to Reality

February 19, 2013 by  
Filed under God of Style, My Personal Life

A friend of mine, Mark D. is a older guy who has a lot more life experience than I do. He shared something recently with me that is close to my heart and the thought continued to evolve.

Life is long, life is short. It is all a matter of perspective, right? Well, life is about time, and time is limited. We’re told can be can anything we want to, but in truth there is a finite amount of time and resources in this lifetime that we eventually give back before we turn to dust or return to the lord or whatever it is you believe.

Being single in America is weird, because we are so entitled to getting everything we want. Money, food, “friends”, all the quick fixes. However I think this actually create isolation and a reality that is further away from the truth.

Village life, in fact, is closer to truth. Ever watch avatar? Tribe members die, others are born, there are different people in different age groups, growing up and growing old in the cycle of life. This fact and truth is remained hidden in celebrity society, because the dream that’s being created is, live young forever and be famous and rich!

I’ve been avoiding the truth for the last few years, sitting pretty at my job when in fact I should have been searching for it. I also realized that not having my family here, I am “removed” from part of a natural cycle of list. Things I need to do going forward to be closer to reality:

  • Have genuinely good friends who are more important to you than superficial stuff
  • Get a dog – dog’s life is short, yet spends his moments with you in the present. I still remember our old black lab from Africa years later
  • Attend a funeral, wedding, or plan some sort of rite of passage event
  • Help out at a local shelter – see those who are less fortunate than you
  • Be doing a job that is your gift to the world, and if not, make plans to be doing this 12 months from now.

In terms of pick up, I would say:

  • Go out regularly to see the night club environment for what it is – a socially artificial place where girls are
  • Have a regular group of friends that hangout and have a good time, doesn’t matter what you do
  • Have friends who respect you for who you really are, instead of your image
  • Have genuine female friends who care about you beyond just sex
  • Recognize people’s reactions as different between cold vs. warm approaches

Tyler does a good job about describing having an “abundant” mentality while recognizing scarcity in life:

Hugh Hefner’s Tipping Point

August 23, 2010 by  
Filed under God of Style, Learn about Making Money

The following is from Mr. Hugh Hefner’s biography by Stephen Watts that inspired me to write this blog post. The story begins from his early days after he was married and living the conformist American life:

His various forays –the affair the bohemian apartments, the stag films, the risque parties– expressed a common desire to jettison the social conventions of postwar America.

“It was all part of the same thing. It was somehow trying to get out of that life,” he noted. “Somehow just not keep marching in lockstep to the abyss.”

Hefner’s discontent, ironically, came to a head in a moment of great joy. In December 1952, he and Jim Brophy wrote and directed the revue of stars a fund-raising variety show for the Steinmetz high school alumni Association. The old school chums serve as masters of ceremonies and perform several songs, the numbers, including a hilarious “Walking my baby back home” where Hefner serenaded Brophy, who was dressed as a woman. The crowd loved the show, and Hefner, showered with applause and laughter, was ecstatic.”

“The alumni show reinspired my faith in myself. It reminded me of a high school that’s what I truly believed I could do anything.”

This moment of euphoria quickly turned to ashes as the glow of success faded, the experience of the show only highlighted the angst that had been eveloped the rest of his life. He grew acutely despondent about his stalled career and his unhappy marriage, and the feelings almost overwhelmed him a few days later. Standing on a bridge over the Chicago River in the middle of a typically frigid winter, he looked out over the water and felt a desperate desire to recapture those warm feelings of high school life when he had been the esteemed leader of the gang, romance was in the air, and everything seemed possible.

“I stood on the bridge… and I felt as if my life was over. I put away all my dreams from childhood and I was miserable. But misery inspired decision as Hefner thought to himself, “I’ve gotta do something.”

Hefner in his early days inspecting the bunnies

Choosing your path in life

July 13, 2010 by  
Filed under God of Style, Learn about Pickup

There are many reasons why some dating coaches maintain the attrition rate of new students in the seduction community as 95% within a 6 month period. Read more

Social Kinetic Energy & The Roseto Mystery (From Outliers)

November 8, 2009 by  
Filed under God of Style, Learn about Pickup

I was waiting at the pharmacy at the local market today and a thought struck me like a hard rock thrown at my head. The idea was “Social Kinetic Energy”. I define it as the level of interactivity between individuals within a community (usually a town, city, or family).


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Transition in work, life

October 14, 2008 by  
Filed under God of Style, My Personal Life

Alpha, what have you been doing the last 2 weeks?

Alpha: Well. I was basically in a tough situation at work with 2 of my female managers. The situation lasted for about a month as I worked very hard to transition out of the group into a new team. For me, this was a difficult road. I learned a lot along the way. Read 48 laws of power and highlighted specific chapters. Basically, I was in a position of no power, and I had to play the game by other people’s rules and still come up on top. Read more

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