You and you alone are responsible for your own success
December 12, 2011 by alphawolf
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Text Message between me and DJ Fuji
Me: (With the greatest humility I can summon up) I am the best PUA I know. (Exceptions: DJ Fuji and Arash)
(A few hours later)
DJ Fuji: ?
Me: Just venting.
Me: No one I know is better than me. I have come to realize that getting good at game is my responsibility and mine only.
DJ Fuji: It was, is, and always will be. Read more
3 Common Mistakes Newbies Make
December 9, 2011 by alphawolf
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How many of us actually get to meet a friend who we are in constant awe of, and yet share an amazing friendship with? We’d be lucky if such a person were to come into our lives, and that we can continue to be the best of ourselves.
When Allen Shore first Met Denny Crane (The Practice):
San Diego Field Report 3 and Lessons (Final 3/3)
October 17, 2011 by alphawolf
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Lessons Learned – Improve Your Pick Up Skills
Lesson 1. When people are stressed out, they behave in a very strange way. And they don’t realize it. When I came back from San Diego, I realize how stressed a person was from working all the time in Silicon Valley. They argued about things that don’t matter, simply for the sake of their own egos. Perhaps people that are working overtime need something to make themselves feel important, because they’re not living their lives that they want. In order to communicate clearly with these people, you must first understand them, listen, and connect with them in a way that doesn’t trigger the auto stressed responses.
Lesson 2. Being relaxed and free, usually lets out your “best self”. You’re in a relaxed state. I felt very confident and very calm at the same time. This is a great state to be in and to meet new people. This feeling you have that makes you think you can take on the world. Americans work hard. In doing so, we lose sight of what’s really important. The number of people I can quote from work that truly don’t listen, and push their own agendas, stacked up in the hundreds. And those are only people that I have met in my own career. Therefore, a man who is calm, unrushed, take the time to talk and listen, can create value to the corporations. Such a man is highly valued and will likely secure a position that rewards him as such.
Lesson 3. Interaction. Not good looks. Not money. Not even fame. Dress and control your own demeanor to inspire a more frequent and deeper level of interaction with other people, and this will drastically improve your success in a particular venue. For example, I remember a girl who dressed up as little red for Halloween and she was giving away a basket of lollipops. The guy stands in the middle of the road with a sign that says “free hugs“. The girl in the quirky dress and a necklace that says “drink me”. these people may not be the best looking for the most successful and life. But, and added that they own it because it would interact with the most people. The next time you go out to think about this for your style choices and your clothing attire.
Chelsea Korka with a necklace that's sure to get tons of attention
San Diego Field Report 2 (2/3)
October 7, 2011 by alphawolf
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Last night I met up with another PUA who was visiting from Texas in San Diego. So much easier with a wing. Nonetheless. We hit up Pacific Beach. First stop by Typhoon Saloon. Yep. Fuji was right. Tons of blondes. This bar reminded me a lot of Old Pro back in Palo Alto – big strapping frat guys and skinny blondes. Natural counterparts.
We were getting to know each other and a girl comes up and approaches us. I wasn’t sure why but she was perky and my new Texas friend starts reading her aura. She’s fun and then jumps away as soon as she came. I wasn’t sure what’s up with that – never seen it before. I think she was looking for us to buy her a drink and when she realized we weren’t going to because we weren’t chodes, she left!
San Diego Field Report 1 and the San Diego Lair (1/3)
October 6, 2011 by alphawolf
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I took a week off for vacation this week and decided to drive to San Diego for a week. I’ve always thought about San Diego, and the last time I was here almost 4 years ago, we were stuck on Coranado Island and “Googler” events. Which was great, but I am pretty sure no one got laid.
Years in the game: 4.5
Years working for the man: 7