Yes. I said it. Women are sexual objects and sexual beings. They are so much more than that, too. But something I have come to realize is that a seducer is able to bring the sexual side out of the female being and her energy.
I have been conflicted about this since my breakup, mostly due to the fact that most pick up companies and even RSD frame it a bit differently. They say, “all women are sluts”. I don’t like the word “slut” because it implies that there’s something inherently bad about her. Are are innately good and evil? I’m not sure.
But what I do know is that even the purest girl will have sexual urges. And to deny them completely is to ignore the truth. You could argue that to indulge them funny may also be an addiction and denial of your priorities in life. But there’s no doubt – sex is a big part of our lives and we should be able to enjoy it.
I’ve been beating off my sexual urges so I can tone down my work time right now for my business. However, I’ve discovered that I am somewhat content or unhappy at that because I know I am capable of so much more. I see pick up as a fun skill that I am learning. I don’t mistreat any of my girls, and I try to treat everyone with respect while still having that flirty energy that makes a women attracted and interested in you (think Russell Brand). You have to have a bit of dynamic push and pull in your conversations in order to generate a high level of interest with women beyond just your looks.
I realize now that I was denying that women were sexual creatures and I choose to treat them all as reasonable, sane, proper individuals of society. But the social narrative has a tendency to hide the real truth in favor or preserving the social order. The truth is that women, and men, are sexual creatures. We are driving by our nature, which is to survive, and to replicate. We are also driven by intellect, love, compassion, and inspiration.
There was a scene in Boston Legal where Alan Shore, the intelligent and yet hugely vile lawyer remarks, “Am I a misogynist, Denny? I’d like to think of myself as intelligent and reasonable and… but sometimes, I can’t help but just see women as….the perfect comforter for my lonely genitals”. (I’m paraphrasing here). But what Alan was trying to say was that, here he was, a professional, rational lawyer of superior skills and intellect, and yet, his base instincts to mate with the opposite sex still compel him to have these dirty thoughts.
Perhaps the right path for me to travel, is to see that human nature is innately good and bad, and to embrace and love someone completely, you need to be able to see and understand both of these natures.
To take this further philosophically, Nietzsche may have been right when he said, “there is not good and evil”. Taking a page from SparkNotes:
That is, we tend to think of moral concepts like good and evil as stable, grounded in some distant origin. Nietzsche attempts to show that our moral concepts have always been fluid, to the point that the word good, for example, has had contrary meanings to different people. Our moral concepts have a long genealogy and are by no means fixed. By dislodging the idea that good and evil exist somehow independently of our wills, Nietzsche encourages a greater sense of agency with regard to our moral lives.
Nietzsche explains the fluidity of moral concepts by reference to the will to power. According to Nietzsche, the will to power is the fundamental drive in the universe. Every will has a desire for independence and to dominate other wills, though this will to power expresses itself in many different ways. For instance, the schoolyard bully achieves physical power over others, while the nerd studies hard to achieve an intellectual kind of power. Since all concepts are human inventions, Nietzsche argues, all concepts are ultimately the expression of some will or other. For example, the concept of good can mean wealth and vigor or it can mean meekness and charity, depending on who interprets it. If we seem to have relatively fixed moral concepts in this day and age, that is only a result of the triumph of slave morality over all other points of view. By assuming that these concepts have fixed meanings, we are surrendering our will to the wills of those who framed these concepts. Strong-willed people, according to Nietzsche, resist the categories of thought that are foisted upon them and have the independence and creativity to see the world from their own distinctive perspectives.”
Venturing off more to sexual territory:
This is a purely technique based video on initiating orgasms
Over the past weekend we got the pleasure of meeting some of the women (and men) of OneTaste . I should have done more research on their organization beforehand, but what ensued was an interesting dialog of understanding women and relationships in general. We had many differences in thought. Mainly, the PU community is mostly men, and despite the natural game Gurus ( Zan and Juggler), much of our study and revolved around the technique of the pickup leading the seduction, leading to sex.
There are many of these “intimacy” and relationship based organizations out there, and they have been around for some time. I think OneTaste does a good job in helping men (and women) understand what connection is and how to manage a relationship. Some of their approach towards PU is also useful. For example, we role played with some of women on the “tests” (AKA Shit Tests) that women play and how to negate or go around them. Below are the notes form our meeting:
1. Don’t be played by the game, become a player.
2. Women can tell when a man has been talking to women. Relates a lot of Zan’s idea of “seducer’s aura”. (I found that quite interesting.)
3. Be genuine and real with who you are and the attraction will be real.
4. Body language and pausing when asking questions, giving her some space to response
5. Women consciously or unconsciously test men -it is just who they are – you must be able to deal with these tests on your quest to become the alpha male.
6. If you are turned on, she will be turned on
Now, we realized something during this also – that they are not technique based. A lot of this is based on philosophy and more so “way of living”. Thus, I think these groups are useful for those who have more natural game styles or are in a higher level of PU where by they are already dealing with serious relationship issues. Because let’s face it – beyond the PU and the lay, it is a relationship between 2 people and and in and of itself is one of the most complex things in life.
I still believe in technique, and there are many that teach this, including TMM, RSD, AM, PUATraining (London), among others. What’s important is that the community today has become a free and growing marketplace, where one can choose to learn from whomever they want.
Going back to the nature of women – Maybe picking up a girl is easy, compared to the task of understanding women.