Press or no press, the timing and death of Norma Jeane added to the mysteriousness of her long recorded addiction to sleeping pills. Another star of the Fox studio in the 1940s was Elizabeth Talor. When she died in March 23rd of this year, the press coverage was minimal. Seeing a once beautiful girl age and slowly grow old perhaps takes the idealization of the sex goddess away. But reality sets in, and one must wonder if living life is a lot harder than simply dying. My lesson from Marilyn’s biography was her ability to charm. Her oscillating contrast of superwoman and vulnerable girl, and her ability to smile for the cameras and light up a room in her “fantasy”-creating mind, despite her ongoing, clinical depression.

The Beautiful Yet Vulnerable Marilyn (Norma Jean)

Another issue is that of wealth. The estate of Marilyn Monroe only had $4000 in her name when she died. Her estate started making money from her work and in 1977, finally paid her mother Gladys the money she promised from her will, years after her death in 1962. Wealth is the ability to make money and create money, while having all that you need. Simply spending everything you earn does not make you rich. Rather, making more than enough money and maintaining this stability for your needs and to make you happy – that, to me, is wealth.

“This is the story of a girl named Norma Jeane Mortensen. She thrived despite seemingly insurmountable obstacles and almost impossible odds. She created and became a woman more fascinating than even she believed possible. And in the face of her own failinga mind, she battled to keep that creation alive – not for her, but for us.

Indeed, Marilyn Monroe did exist. Even through the woman insider her was at times doubtful of that fact, we knew it better than she did. She spent so much of her energy, her own will, projecting an image of impossible beauty and ultimate joy. Yet, as the end neared, her experience of who she truly was drifted farther and farther from that ideal – until she found it impossible to pretend anymore. Her choice, as awful as it may have been, was this: Admit to the world that Marilyn Monroe had become nothing more than smoke and mirrors, or die. On August 5th, 1962, Marilyn Monroe gave the world all she had left to give – the knowledge that she was, and always would be… ours.” – J. Randy Taraborrelli

With sharp contrast to Marilyn Monroe, Audrey grew stronger with each bout of hardship and tended to avoid and not trust the public and the media. In fact, it is her very nature to keep to herself and drew even more attention to her from the press. Marilyn, on the other hand, fell victim to depression, plagued by mental illnesses and getting lost in her fame and, despite her high earnings, was always in financial dire.

Audrey’s style perhaps reflects her persona, catapulting her to one of history’s most iconic styles. Even today, people still say, “that’s so Audrey!” Attempting to figure our what make sher stylish, historians and friends remark:

• Simplicity – she never over dresses and knows that impact of each clothing item on her overall outfit and body frame. She accessorizes well using simple things, such as the scarf and belt in Roman Holiday.
• What works for your body – despite public pressure, she never underwent plastic surgery for her breasts or face. Her imperfections became part of who she is.
• Turning weaknesses to strengths: To the previous point, she used her waif-ish figure to create a new type of beauty that was thin, classy and delicate: exactly the opposite of the voluptuous Marilyn and Liz Taylor at the time.
• “Don’t look at me”, but yet ironically everyone did – Audrey always knew when the retract from public attention, and she made decisions that ultimately made her own life one of happiness. Knowing when the quit her career to become a mother, and creating life long friendships through her allure and classiness. Unlike Marilyn again, Audrey’s close friends and sons honored her after her death. The same could not be said about Marilyn’s half sister, Berniece and Pat Kennedy. That is not entirely their fault – Marilyn’s relationship with herself was often the source of much conflict and tragedy.
• Manifestation of your presence and your own style – Beyond her outfits and looks, Audrey was simple and elegant in other areas of her life. Her choice in good food and wine, and not confusing expensive price tags with a direct correlation to goodness.
• Staying grounded – meanwhile, staying humble and realizing that fame is only temporary and always being one of the easiest actresses to work with. I have learned that high value and high class is NOT mutually exclusive from genuineness and authenticity.
• That’s so ‘Audrey’. Indeed.

On Audrey’s Style

On Audrey:

She was 22 years old and, literally overnight, had become a Broadway luminary the way a naïve vedette becomes a star in a sentimental movie about a chorus girl leaping to stage center… Perhaps it was precisely the shock and the extreme nature of it that led her to distrust that what was happening would endure. Certainly she no conviction that she had earned it. But not many people had any idea of the real Audrey, a considerate and stuffy refinement, who could also be a clown, an irrepressible mimic, a spontaneous turner of cartwheels and, as Milton wrote of Nature, a lusty paramour.

On Hubert Givency:

Count Hubert James Marcel Taffin de Givenchy (French pronunciation: [ybɛʁ də ʒivãˈʃi], born February 21, 1927) is a French aristocrat and fashion designer who founded The House of Givenchy in 1952. He is famous for having designed much of the personal and professional wardrobe of Audrey Hepburn, as well as clothing for clients such as Jacqueline Kennedy. He was named to the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame in 1970

That summer day, Audrey left Givenchy’s workrooms with those items for her next picture and, in the bargain, a friendship that never wavered for the rest of her life. Over the course of forty years, their mutual respect and devotion grew into something beyond that of designer and mannequin or clothier and client. They both cultivated their natural styles – their shared love of gardens, for example, and of good (not necessarily expensive) food and wine – into rare forms of a refined attitude toward life; with them, style became substantial. “Thre are few people I love more,” Audrey said of Hubert. “He is the single person I know with the greatest integrity.” … “Givenchy and Hepburn brought a respect for the individual and a sense of simple elegance that invited other sto look for their own (not necessarily) expensive styles, not mutely to imitate others.

You can find out more about Audrey and her supported charities at Audrey Hepburn.com

Part I

Part II

Here’s an appetizer page: Style advice from the one and only DJ Fuji.

In all honesty, I’m no model material. But I’ve always been told I was good looking since I was a little kid. Looking back at family pictures, I would constitute myself a 9/10 as a kid. As I grew older my ears got a little bit bigger, and so did my nose and I would rate myself as a 7/8 out of 10 as an adult. Still pretty good and above average on the population totem poll, but not enough to have girls jump all over me by default.

Below was an entry I found from my diary:

Monday, July 14, 2008

This morning I woke up, and I took a picture in the mirror to record the progression of acne on my face. To my surprise, the new skin that grew from Alexandra’s microdermabrasion looked pretty good. However, I was getting breakouts more on my neck as the acne spread downwards.

As I looked at my pictures, I suddenly felt that I was very ugly. The picture looked ugly to me. I looked ugly to me. And then I started this pattern of thought, criticizing my looks. My un-proportional and big ears, my round nose, my squinty eyes (I’ve always thought my eyes looked good). It made my day pretty awful as I navigated these thoughts. Right now, I just don’t take good pictures. The image I see in the mirror ends up being worse on camera. Also, I do want to change the way I look.

You see where this thread is going, right? It was bad day, and a day where a over-concentration of my physical looks affected my mental state.

As I searched for answers I found some insights from unusual forums. Here is a girl asking the same question on the Yahoo! Answers thread:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071202080317AADz8MB

I found a very interesting and long thread on e Health Forum:

http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic108234.html

As I was reading this thread, something hit me pretty hard. One of the users wrote:

for those of you who think you are ugly, think about all those people who are blind, deaf, missing a limb, living in poverty, or otherwise physically deficient. You owe it to them to make the best of your situation, which is, in most cases, an unhealthy mental perspective of an otherwise beautiful image.

This got me to snap out of it and enjoy the rest of my week. However, the thoughts came back, and it is a constant struggle. I have come to realize that because growing up, a large foundation of my confidence was rooted in social feedback of my good looks, that when this image started cracking and I received negative feedback of it as an adult, that I lost a large part of my confidence. Thus I came to understand that core confidence must be rooted in something that is deeper than just looks alone.

The pickup community doesn’t focus enough on looks. I say this because it is very commercialized and the marketers have an agenda to make people believe that game alone, with bad looks can help you get laid. While I value game wholeheatedly, I have come to the following conclusions. I welcome any challenges and opposing thoughts on this:

1. Tyler Durden says in the Blueprint that a good looking guy will get laid without game. He will get the “gimmes” of girls that have decided that want to get laid. He mentioned that less good looking guys work harder and longer, to get their game streamlined. Oftentimes, it is not their looks per se, but the limiting beliefs that come with their looks that they need to overcome. I agree with all of his points. But in his conclusion of looks, I couldn’t help but wonder: if 2 guys, one being good looking, and the other average, put the same amount of effort into game, wouldn’t the better looking guy, assuming equal levels of game, have more success with women? Wouldn’t the better looking guy have more “potential”? Wouldn’t the better looking guy receive more positive social feedback growing up, and in other areas of life? We have all seem studies of men with higher salaries the taller they get (executive studies) and better looking babies receiving better treatment from their mothers.
2. I give Lovedrop credit in “Revelations” when he says, “Looks are important. But this book is dedicated to the development of game, which lies outside the realm of physical appearance.” I think Lovedrop (AKA Chris) is one of the real artists out there. He’s not as good looking as Mystery or the other MPUAs, and he overcome this by improving both his mannerisms and ultimately his game.
3. We talk a lot about grooming, avatars and style. But I think we are missing the fundamentals here on physical beauty. What makes someone “beautiful”? I have been trying to find the answer for this for a long time. Golden mean. Symmetrical face. Nancy Etcoff does a great job summarizing statistical data in her book Survival of the Prettiest: The Science of Beauty. I recommend this book for anyone remotely interested in the subject of beauty and how we (humans) perceive beauty.
4. I’ve lived in many countries growing up. I realized that the perceived beauty of a certain race changes greatly by country. In the US, a good looking black, Indian or Asian guy will have to be really good looking, in order pass the “GQ white guy” limit test. What I mean is, usually, the ethnic good looking guys are considered very good looking in their cultures. It is as if the tall white GQ guy gets +1 points automatically, because partially of social programming and also partially of the current state of modeling and Hollywood.
   

   Daniel Henney: one of the few Asian American models in the US. (And he's half white)

5. I think game is important. But we need to look beyond the immediate look enhancing benefits of style. We need to go into lifestyle. Study models. Study the lifestyle of people who have the resources to change their looks. This is why I started this section of the blog. Veneers. Plastic Surgery. Workout sessions and body shaping. Dieting. Eye color manipulation. Hair care (long term), Skin care. Scar removal. Body hair management. Skin tonality. Cosmetic Dentistry. Makeup. Its more than tactics and routines. Its lifestyle. This type of lifestyle requires money and resources, and it requires an elevation from the levels we are at.

In the near future, we will have the option to choose our children’s genes. While this poses ethical concerns, who would NOT want their child to be taller? If parents could pick the eye and hair color of their child, would they do it? Genes that govern intelligence? Strength? Disease immunity? Gattaca is becoming less science fiction than you think and not everybody is going to be like Jude Law. (No spoilers for you here so you’ll need to watch to movie). My point is, game is game. Game is important, and it represents who we ultimately are. But we need start looking at game based on foundations of genetics and looks.

The music is from K-OS called Sunday Morning

As a shoutout, here is his official website:

http://www.pua.pl/aindex.php

Badboy Quotes / Introduction
Direct game works better here [in the US]
I represent direct game
The deeper I go, the more simple it becomes
You’re not picking her up, you are seducing her
Emotions are contagious
The girl is a mirror image of yourself. She will reflect your beliefs, thoughts and how those things are projected by your presence. In a way, you are “picking up” yourself.
Women don’t want to be the one choosing, they want to be the chosen. You are choosing her
Most 9’s and 10’s are very insecure.
I have more success talking to with American girls!
I love other guys. They drive the girl to the club, pay for her drinks and bring her back! I don’t have to do anything. The other guys are my best friends.

Emotions
• How do you feel? How does she feel? Pay attention to how she feels
• Don’t negotiate with logic or argue your way into sleeping with her. Logic does not work with women. Of the Fortune 500 companies, only 4-5 CEOs are women. It is not in their nature to be logical.
• Don’t change the way she thinks. Change the way she feels. When talking to a woman always notice how she feels during the interaction.
There are 5 emotions you must make her feel (Note: same as BadBoy’s DVDs)
1. Relaxed
2. Attraction
3. Trust
4. Physical Comfort
5. Connection

On being rich and on social status
Club  Swords  Guns  Money

Being “rich” isn’t necessarily what you think. She’s not being a gold digger. It makes her feel the following emotions: comfort, security, protection, power, dominance, stability. The things that evoke these emotions have changed over time.

On buying drinks
Don’t buy drink as a way to impress or attract her. Do it for building trust and comfort after she is attracted to you. Having a drink has become a social ritual of friendship. Calibrate on drink buying. How many times have you thought, “if I only bought that girl a drink I would have got laid!?”

How to create Trust
• Changing location
• Leading (activity, motion)
• Give her something you own, or wear something of hers (glasses, hat, etc)
• Sit down (high heels are painful)- you are helping her with her pain
• Time = trust
• Give something to the girl’s friend, and take the girl (show physical leading technique) and tell her you will come back.

Physical Comfort /Kino Escalation
• High five
• Palm reading
• Smile, relax, “love to be touched” vibe
• Movement of kino goes from hand, to shoulders, to the head/hair, to the mouth, breast, and then back down finally to the vaginal region.

On Dominance
Dominance = achieving things without using force, but influence
Aggression = force. You will face resistance if you use force
[Badboy demos locking hand leading and sitting the girls down by lightly pressing her hip area]
If you get resistance, you are either a) too weak (no motivation or energy) b) too forceful, too much pressure and will raise resistance and trigger “danger” in her mind.

Q&A
The club is a fake and dramatic environment. Pick one girl and think, “I am going to make her happy for 1 night.” Think about her, not about your wanting to fuck her
The best cologne is the pheromone the female body releases
[AW: was he joking?]
All your life, girls have developed ways to filter out the real men. Be the man. I don’t believe in rejection.
“In love and war, remember there are no rules”

On day 2s
Tell the girl she can pick the time, you pick the location. Location gives you more control
Be unpredictable. If you become predictable, it is game over.
Day 2 venues
Mini-golf
Go cart
Telescope and blanket (park)
Running / sports

Party vs. Emotional Girls
Party girls: confident, sexy, and flirty
Attraction keys: leading. Don’t talk to her, show her with physical lead. “Sex, drugs and rock and roll”, if you are good sex, they will come back for more.
Emotional girls: long term, value building, security and protection
Attraction keys: build value, connection. Have the “we are soul mates” vibe.

Openers
Whisper “You’re so fucking sexy” and then walk away (she will think about you for the rest of the night. Wait 10-15 minutes, “now we can talk”
Badboy tells us story about the HB10 with 7 guys, how he turned her around and then shook his head and walked away. She was hooked.
“Stop” like a police sign
Both hands on shoulders turn her around and keep smiling
Hand leading (very dominant)
Hand her your card / number “you’re a smart girl. You know what to do”

Social Circle Game
• You still have to have club game in order to build and maintain a social circle. The club scene is the most difficult environment that will test your social intuition skills. Keep this in mind as I tell you about social game
• 5 really hot girlfriends. Keep your dick in your pants and try not to fuck them. Each will have a circle of about 10 girlfriends
• If you take a friend, be sure to replace her
• “Bait” to catch the bigger fish / use as pivots
• House party – invite 10 girls, 3-4 guys. 3-4 parties later, make them feel comfortable so they will get drunk and sleep over. Then harvest.
• Give the girl a mission, “you bring the salad, you get the drinks” to reduce party flake rate
• Relax, no community guys, no hitting on girls at party

Ending
“Being a mPUA is great. For me, it is the chase that gets off. The sex is great too, but I love the chase!”
“My purpose if life is to give women the men they want”

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