Social Pressure, Staying Rough, Fun and Cake Face

Diamonds are made from intense pressure over time. Likewise, the greatest of humans are made from extraordinary circumstances. While we don’t like to feel like we’re in a predicament, those moments teach us lessons and make us make decisions that reveal who we really are to the world and to ourselves. Instead of staying “comfortable” and “safe”, make an effort to push out your comfort boundaries. That is the only way you are going to become better than you currently are. A couple of lessons over the past few weeks:

1. I was a salsa club and as usual danced and practiced my moves. On the way out I saw a guy named Leo. Leo was in a wheelchair. Despite this, he chatted me up and asked the bouncer if there was an elevator to get upstairs. “What happened?” I asked. He said, “Accident, years ago” and then changed the topic. It simply wasn’t important to him.

He proceeded to head up with a girlfriend of his. Though my encounter with him was brief, I thought to myself, “here I am worried about forgetting my steps to a routine. How selfish. At least I have legs that I can still walk on”. Then I thought about all the guys who complain about “game” being too hard, or girls being mean to them. These excuses seem lame and undoubtedly selfish when you see a guy in a wheelchair, having a better time than you. With nothing more than the strength and positivity of his thoughts. Read more

The “I am going to have fun” vibe

Thursday afternoon, we are playing a game at the courts in Crittenden Lane. I was doing alright, but not that well. This wasn’t even my team. I thought about it, and remembered back in high school – when I played ball, it was always when I didn’t think about it that much that I did really well. Coach made me to 20 push ups after sucking the first half, and I was so tired that when I went back into the game I didn’t think about it and sunk my first shot.

This playful vibe is useful, and I ended up scoring 6 of the 21 points for the win. Later that weekend, I also embodied the “Fun” attitude into my PU. This attitude is comprised of “I am going to have a good time” with “I am a fucking cool guy with a cool life” vibe. Combine this with actual skill, in basketball and PU, and you can get very far in results. I had 2 girls buy me drinks recently. It was a blast. Lovedrop talks about the Ying and Yang. Ying is the positive energy you generate form your presense. Your positive vibe. The Yang is the non-reaction seeking and negative energy deflecting energy. You can’t let one person’s actions get to you, this includes other AMOGs, a girl’s rejection, or any other distraction of that sort. In some times, being in a “fun state” is like being in “Flow”, and your ego goes out the window. You are one with the game.

Feeling like this also makes me smile and happy for a moment. And during that phase, in my mind I wish I would not lose it and that this feeling can continue. I can call it up when I force a smile, or when I think about this “fun and play” basketball mentaltity again, but the impact it has when it happens varies.

I suppose, when in doubt, let your ego go. Think, “have fun”. and “I am cool”. In the words of Vincent Chase, “My life is too good to be worried about Shit like this”.