Way of Attraction

Certain personalities have greater effect on a character’s style and the way they move about life. We call this the way of attraction. Including his style, the characters use it in conjunction to their core personalities. I noticed the Way of Attraction when I was trying to decipher what made men stylish.

As I wrote down notes on the way clothes fit on the body, I realized at a salsa conference that there was something else that MADE people more attractive. This both extends beyond style as well as coordinates with it.

Being difficult to describe in words or on a blog post, I call it the “way of attraction.” It is the combination of a person’s appearance and the way they move through life that gives them this vibe and energy. Some examples that come to mind:

The way Ari Gold wipes his fingers across his mouth before he says something important, the way he adjusts his suit jacket, the way he moves his hands while he talks all signify dominance, and the power suit further enhances this message. The cell phone, his watch and his tie are his props. Even when the character Ari Gold is being dominated by others, he still holds a strong frame whether he is wrong or not.

Let’s take different example. The character Dr. House is a medical genius. He’s dominant, but in a weird, unconventional way. His cane and his medicine are his props. He likes to challenge the system and is bit quirky despite his intelligence.

Tommy Lee, a hardcore rocker is always a bit crazy and has an “I don’t a shit” attitude that comes across in his demeanor and clothes. His accessories and tattoos further signify his identify. It feels like mayhem could break out at any moment.

Psychologist Monica Moore has catalogued the many signals that women use to convey their interest to men, signals that predict who will be approached by whom ninety percent of the time. She says that the frequency and intensity of these gestures are better predictors of which women will be approached by men than their physical beauty.

Women thus use the way of attraction as well: darting glances, tossing their hair, licking their lips, giving coy smiles, and dance to get male attention. It is time for men to dance along as well.

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