Fallacies of the Seduction Community #2: Alpha Status and Likeability are Inversely Related

August 31, 2012 by  
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Problem: PUAs are afraid of looking “beta” or less “alpha” by appearing to be too friendly. PUAs act more alpha because they think that is what they are supposed to do to DHV and get higher value, in turn to get the girl and show off to other PUAs.

Wrong Way

  • Newbies look nervous, never smile, trying to be cool
  • Keeps assessing what other people think of him, instead of what he thinks about himself and the situation
  • Always worried about losing value
  • Acting or relating to impress, instead to express

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Fallacies of the Seduction Community #1: Openers are a big deal

August 31, 2012 by  
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Problem: PUAs don’t know how to open, mis-calibrate on the open, or think too much about it.

Wrong Open

A PUA goes up to a set, walking in a clunky way. He stops awkwardly, and then suddenly, his face animates up and his voice blasts out, “Hey guys! Can I get a quick opinion on something!?!”

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Mr Smooth. AKA Vince Chase Game

February 15, 2012 by  
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I am in between writing my book, doing a photoshoot and enjoying some parties I previously was invited do.

Therefore I will leave some quick lessons for you as I take a quick break on my computer.

Lesson 1: Mr Smooth Game.

Frame: I don’t need your pussy I’m on my own dick. (Kanye West)

When I had a girlfriend and I was at salsa club, I never hit on girls, I simply wanted to dance. Ironically, more girls found me attractive. I wasn’t selling anything, and I wasn’t nervous talking to them.

Frame: Everyone else is trying to fuck. I am just here to dance.

I am not trying to get anything from you. Therefore our exchange can only be based on that of mutual respect and value.

Lesson 2: Getting laid automatically brings about this state. It is like women can sense it.

If you just gave a girl head, don’t wash your face and go out. You’ll notice a distinct difference when women are next to you. I don’t think the same thing works for girls. I.e. more guys give her attention because she just gave a guy a blow job. Someone should test this.

Lesson 3: Asshole confidence vs. Calm confidence

Frame: You can make other people feel good and still feel good about yourself

Still, knowing when to take a stand. Depends on threat assessment (real fights, insecure guys). Letting some things go from guys who have no power, who pose no threat to you. Understanding when to fight for a RESULT, versus fighting for your own EGO.

Some girls will still look at your weird, even IF you just got laid and are relaxed. You just think they are weird. Your frame is MUCH stronger and it becomes reality. You can’t control a stranger’s reaction to you all the time. You can, however, control your frame and gain domain over their reality as your reality becomes stronger and is reinforced by the social situation.

Example of Billy Walsh. He started out as Asshole confidence, and ended Entourage as a calm, confident guy. Notice the difference. The asshole is a more interesting character on TV to watch. But, as friends, people like the calmer Billy Walsh better:

Club Game: Energy

February 5, 2012 by  
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I learned something new about club game tonight. Your energy has everything to do with your success in a loud club setting. Every club has their own “frequency”.

Without dialing into this frequency, you cannot effectively communicate with the people, usually the majority, that are dialed into the club’s frequency channel. So the idea is to figure out a way to get your energy level usually up to match the clubs atmosphere. You can do this in a variety of different ways:

First you can naturally train yourself whenever you walk into a club to start feeling the vibe and get excited about going inside. Remember when you were a kid and you are about to go on the playground to play? This should be the same type of feeling that you get as you walk into the club. Naturally, this takes some time and anchoring helps in the process. The more you do it in the more you condition yourself to associate positive feelings of fun and playfulness to this type of environment, the easier it will be over time.

Anchoring Positive Feelings when you “Hate” Clubs

Now, let’s assume that you hate clubs. As a matter of fact, I kind of hate clubs also. It’s loud, it’s noisy, people are smoking, I don’t really enjoy drinking alcohol, and I hate, HATE facing rejection. However there is one thing the club has that I do very much enjoy perhaps above all else. Hot girls.

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